anyone who speaks ill of the school will be attacked by the whole group? the "gag order" distorts the relationship between home and school
2024-09-24
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original title: whoever says something bad about the school will be attacked by everyone? the "gag order" distorts the relationship between home and school
recently, a statement made by the principal of puning school affiliated to south china normal university has caused widespread controversy.
according to media reports, at a symposium with the theme of "home and school work together, build and share together - discussing school development and child cultivation with parent representatives", the school principal told parents through a ppt that "school love education should start from the family and parents. anyone who dares to speak ill of the school will be attacked by the group. internal problems should be solved internally, and no one else is allowed to make irresponsible remarks."
this statement caused an uproar in public opinion. the statement that "anyone who speaks ill of the school will be attacked by the public" was even jokingly called a "gag order" by some netizens. according to the principal, parents can only say good things about the school and talk about the school's achievements, but cannot say bad things about the school or talk about the school's shortcomings. even if the school has problems, they should solve them internally, otherwise they will become the "public enemy" of the school. in the face of this "gag order", the theme of "home and school work together to build and share" seems quite ironic.
love for the school is a spontaneous emotional resonance of every teacher, student and parent, and it stems from the recognition of the school culture, educational philosophy and teaching achievements. however, once this love is reduced to the rejection and suppression of critical voices, it loses its meaning and value. treating different voices from parents as "thorns in the eye and thorns in the flesh" and regarding normal supervision and criticism as a scourge is not "love for the school education" but more like "obedience education."
the core of home-school co-education is to establish an open, understanding, trusting, inclusive and cooperative home-school relationship, rather than one party becoming a vassal of the other. if the school lacks the most basic respect and trust for parents, and does not understand or care about the parents' true feelings and thoughts, how can we talk about "home-school co-education"?
no one is perfect, and the same is true for schools. it is neither strange nor terrible that schools have some problems or deficiencies. when parents raise them, the school should correct them if necessary and encourage them if necessary. this is how home-school cooperation should work. the principal publicly issued a "gag order" to the parent representative, which precisely reflects the inequality and distrust between home and school. as for using "education anxiety" to control parents and instigate everyone to besiege the parents who raised the questions, the principal's behavior is too overbearing.
from the parents' perspective, they have the right to supervise and give feedback to the school. however, the principal's "gag order" deprives parents of this right, making them afraid to speak out when faced with problems. this not only does not help solve the problem, but also exacerbates the distrust between home and school, and even turns small problems into big conflicts.
the principal's speech clearly exposed the school's "family disgrace should not be made public" mentality. the school's original intention to maintain its own image and authority is understandable, but the premise is to choose the right, reasonable and effective methods. expecting to achieve the goal by silencing parents is actually just deceiving oneself.
in reality, some school bullying incidents are related to the "cover-up" mentality of the schools involved to varying degrees. in other words, not all problems are "internal problems" and can be "solved internally." problems like school bullying, if pointed out by parents in a timely manner, may play a positive role in preventing them from happening.
it is not difficult to find that the "gag order" reflects a closed and exclusive educational logic. under this logic, educators headed by the principal are in an absolutely authoritative position, and any questioning or criticism from parents will be regarded as "disrespectful." this logic runs counter to the inclusiveness and openness of modern education. it is probably not an exaggeration to describe it as "running blindly".
in short, the school should reflect deeply on the "gag order" that distorts the relationship between home and school and the distorted educational logic behind it, and the education management department should also correct it in a timely manner to build an educational environment where home and school are truly united and build and share together. (chen guangjiang)
source: guangming.com
