chongqing daily news network review: “attacking anyone who says something bad” is not a true family-school partnership
2024-09-25
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"anyone who dares to speak ill of the school will be attacked by everyone." it is hard to believe that this was a public warning from a principal to parents of students.
▲photo source: xiaoxiang morning news
recently, media reported that the principal of a school in puning city, guangdong province, listed several requirements of "love school education" to parents using ppt at a symposium with the theme of "home and school work together to build and share". the picture shows that the school not only requires "anyone who speaks badly will be attacked by everyone", but also requires parents to talk about the school's outstanding achievements with their children, "be proud of the school, and everyone loves the school".
this ostrich mentality of not listening to bad things and only listening to good things not only caused ridicule on the internet, but also brought the principal in question to be suspended and made to apologize publicly.
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coincidentally, earlier this month, a kindergarten asked parents to swear collectively that they would "never give the teacher a cold shoulder," which also caused a lot of controversy. if the oath of "never giving the teacher a cold shoulder" can be regarded as the kindergarten's "hard work" to maintain good communication between parents and teachers;inciting parents to attack those who "say bad things" can only show the school's "self-centered" attitude, which is harmful to the relationship between home and school.。
obviously, the principal's understanding of "home-school unity" is extremely biased and even selfish. what does "say bad things" mean? is it that parents' supervision of the school's practices and their opinions on the school are deliberately smearing the school's image? is the school refusing to be "talked about" or is it trying to prevent public opinion that may be caused by negative comments by interfering with parents' right to supervise?
in the eyes of this principal, the so-called "home-school unity" probably just means that parents want to "unite" with the school.。
it has to be said that the content of this symposium, from the wording to the mentality, was particularly timid and overbearing. if all these overbearing warnings were really useful, how could the parents at the scene "dare" to take pictures and expose them? from this point of view, a principal with distorted values is indeed not suitable to continue to lead the development of the school. reality has also taught him that this generation of parents is not so "easy to lead" and being bossy is definitely not the right attitude for education.
true "home-school unity" should be based on equal dialogue and friendly communication between both parties. it cannot be the school "covering the mouth" or the parents "blindly giving orders".compulsive language will make people feel resistant wherever it is used, and in serious cases it will even arouse extreme opposition. in this context, "co-construction and sharing" has become a strong demand from one side and forced acceptance from the other side. parents are lucky enough to hold back for the sake of their children, so how can they love and protect the school from the bottom of their hearts?
from asking parents to swear “not to give teachers the cold shoulder”, to requiring students and parents to jointly promise “not to take photos or videos” when facing school bullying, to this time’s “no bad words allowed, only talk about grades”, the recent emergence of similar incidents has served as a warning to school administrators:to build a good home-school relationship, paper tiger-like deterrence is the last resort. only by taking a correct attitude and treating parents with sincerity can the school win the sincere support and trust of parents, and the unity of home and school can become a reality.
