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at the beginning of the new semester, many children are prone to not adapting to the new semester's study and life. at a press conference held by the national health commission on september 6, cui yonghua, chief physician at beijing children's hospital, gave advice to parents and children on this issue.

in cui yonghua's view, this maladjustment manifests itself in many aspects: for example, in terms of psychological behavior, it may manifest as emotional instability, tension, worry, and even decreased concentration, memory loss, irritability, decreased thinking ability, and aversion to learning. some children show procrastination, laziness, and evasive behavior. some children also show physical symptoms, such as loss of appetite, insomnia, or headaches, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea.

"these are some somatic manifestations of psychological anxiety." cui yonghua analyzed that there are two main reasons for these situations:

the first is "disappointment". many children are very excited when they just have a holiday, and they feel lost after school starts. the second is "worry". they worry that they will not be able to keep up with their studies, that the workload will increase and the difficulty will increase, and that they will not be able to adapt to new interpersonal relationships. some children are also worried that their mobile phones and computers may be taken back.

"these are most common at the beginning of the school year, but most children recover within a short period of time after the start of the school year." he said.

in the face of these situations, how should parents guide and help their children adapt to study and life as quickly as possible? cui yonghua reminds parents,don't just blame and criticize your child. instead, learn to interpret the code behind your child's psychological behavior and try to find a targeted method to help your child.

first, be calm in front of your children and maintain a stable and peaceful state of mind. when children are in an anxious state, parents who maintain a stable and peaceful state of mind will automatically make their children feel more secure. "tell your children with actions that starting school is a normal thing, so that children will quickly return to a state of relief."

the second is to accompany the child to "refocus" and let the child feel that he is not fighting alone. the specific method is to adjust the biological clock as soon as possible, restore a regular work and rest schedule, and exercise appropriately every day, which is conducive to the recovery of the child's energy state. you can also accompany the child to make a study plan for the new semester, help the child to complete a small goal every day, so that the child can improve his learning confidence and regain his learning state. "at this time, parents can also make their own work and study plans, so that the child can feel that his (her) parents are working hard with him (her), and he (she) is not fighting alone."

the third is to help children strengthen their hearts and store energy for their psychological batteries. "parents can pay attention to giving children positive psychological hints and let them feel that you believe they can do it. children should be taught to accept their emotions and learn to express their emotions in appropriate ways. in the near future, you can help your child find something he or she likes to do and help him or her recover to a good and energetic state, which will be very helpful in restoring his or her motivation."

fourth, we need to help children feel at ease. we need to tell children that holidays and school openings are part of the general rules of study and life, and that they should actively adapt to them, adjust step by step, and enrich their future with new knowledge and skills.

how can children adjust themselves in the face of negative emotions? cui yonghua suggested: first, write them down - record your unhappy emotions every day, such as worries, confusion, etc., and think about what problems need to be solved most at the moment. second, recall more - recall your previous successful experiences and the good things in life. this will enhance your sense of self-confidence and stimulate internal motivation. "it will be more effective to use these two methods together."

during the summer vacation, many parents are troubled and frustrated by their children playing with mobile phones. cui yonghua puts forward four suggestions based on why children become addicted to mobile phones:

first, we need to use mobile phones in a reasonable way and make a plan for their use. "parents and children should discuss and make this plan together, such as when to use the mobile phone, how long to use the mobile phone every day, where to put the mobile phone when not in use, and whether to turn off the mobile phone before going to bed. parents should prioritize these and accompany their children to implement this plan."

the second is to cultivate one or two hobbies in children and stick to them, so that they can experience a sense of accomplishment and pleasure. "sports and regular participation in competitive games are very helpful ways to reduce children's dependence on mobile phones."

third, you can encourage children to participate more in social interactions and satisfy their psychological needs to be accepted and recognized through interactions with their peers.

fourth, we need to cultivate children’s reasonable stress relief methods. many children are very tired from studying, and when they are under great pressure, they may use their mobile phones to relax. “we need to teach them the skills to adjust their emotions and stress, so that they can relieve stress in other ways.”

(guangming daily omnimedia reporter zhang sheng)