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have you noticed that the imbalance between male and female ratio among newborns is getting worse?

according to the national health care development statistical bulletin, from 2019 to 2022, the national sex ratio at birth has continued to increase slightly, all above 110. 100 girls vs. 110 boys, far beyond the normal range.

but just when we are worried about the resurgence of "son preference" and the negative impacts that more men than women will have, there is another magical phenomenon that makes everyone unbelievable -

that is,there are far more girls than boys in college.

What？on the educational track, why do boys fall behind even as they race?

"weak men and strong women" in colleges and universities have become

current situation sweeping countries around the world

perhaps it’s not yet clear how we feel about the current state of the “boy crisis,” but the data speaks volumes.

according to historical data released by the ministry of education, the number of general undergraduate enrollment and the proportion of boys and girls in the country from 2010 to 2018. the number of female college students has been far ahead in the past ten years, and has the momentum of becoming more and more courageous.

among the 4,679,358 candidates admitted nationwide in 2022, 2,947,991 are girls and 1,731,367 boys. girls account for 63% of the total number. in other words, out of every 10 college students, nearly 6 are girls.

👆the number and proportion of female students in general undergraduate and junior college from 2010 to 2018丨national bureau of statistics

the same "yin rises and yang declines" is also seen in the list of college entrance examination top scorers in recent years. among the provincial college entrance examination top scorers in various regions in china from 2000 to 2014, the proportion of female top scorers climbed to 59.57%, while the proportion of male top scorers fell to 40.43%. in 2000, the situation just turned around.

not to mention that after entering college, the high-spirited female academics continued to conquer the city and gain the upper hand. he monopolizes class evaluation, wins scholarships, and holds various important positions in the student union.

at this time, boys who are less stressed by the college entrance examination are more likely to indulge in games and choose comfort and relaxation. there are obviously far fewer boys than girls who can continue to maintain self-discipline and study hard.

this is not just the case in china. even in the top colleges and universities in the united states, the phenomenon of the rise of girls and the decline of boys has become increasingly obvious.harvard universityamong the undergraduate freshmen admitted in the class of 2023, male students account for 47% and 53% respectively, with female students also leading the way.

👆from 1970 to 2031, the number of male and female students enrolled in undergraduate programs in the united states and future forecasts

the "boy crisis" is not an alarmist statement. the phenomenon of weak boys and strong girls in colleges and universities has become a phenomenon that has swept through countries all over the world.

according to research from the american psychological association, 369 samples from 308 studies between 1914 and 2011 were analyzed, covering a total of 538,710 boys and 595,332 girls from more than 30 countries. turn out--

girls outperform boys at all ages, in all subjects and in almost all countries.[1]

in fact, until the 1960s, boys around the world took far longer to receive education and had higher college graduation rates than girls. but now, with the popularization of higher education, women who have been traditionally disadvantaged have quickly seized the opportunity and achieved academic counterattacks, increasingly highlighting the advantages of female power.

the american "business weekly" once asserted -

"girls seem to have built a roman empire when it comes to their studies, while boys are likeancient greecethe same is declining day by day. "

on the educational track,

boys are more likely to be "hurt"

why are boys losing their advantage?

published in the economist's "why do boys do so poorly at school?" "in the article, it is pointed out that the key reason is——"pressure from girls of the same age, poor upbringing and biological factors may be to blame."[1]

1. boys who mature late will lose at the starting line.

michael gurian is the world's educational expert in the field of gender science. based on more than 40 years of research, he revealed in the "boys' advantages of parenting series" that boys will develop different learning styles from girls due to different brain development areas.

generally speaking, the learning mechanism of boys’ brains is relatively “backward”.if there is a starting point for learning, then late-maturing boys lose out from the beginning.

①boys’ brains develop later

parents of boys generally have more headaches in the first few years of primary school. ugly handwriting, procrastination, carelessness, and forgetfulness... are all common shortcomings of boys.

in the book "raising boys", it is written: "the brain development of boys is about 6-12 months later than that of girls, especially in terms of language, logic, fine movements, and coordination abilities. they are all half a beat slower. therefore, boys write and recite , language expression, and reading comprehension skills are generally not as good as girls.”[3]

②boys’ reading and writing skills are relatively weak

the left brain of girls is responsible for the two areas of reading and language expression. it develops 1 to 1.5 years earlier than boys, so girls’ reading ability and language expression ability are stronger than boys.

at the same time, as the hippocampus is a critical period for memory transformation, girls tend to have larger areas than boys, so girls’ memory will be better.

in primary and secondary schools where reading, writing and memorizing are emphasized, girls' learning advantages will be more obvious.

in the learning process, hand-eye coordination, pen-holding posture, copying new words, reading and writing skills, and memory are "not as good as others", which puts boys at the disadvantage of "congenital deficiencies" from the beginning.

👆picture source丨"the secret life of growing up·the most young years"

③boys are active and easily bored

learning is an anti-human thing and requires full concentration.the development of the prefrontal cortex of boys' brains is often less mature than that of girls, which also makes it difficult for them to stay focused for long periods of time in class. if you cannot resist the temptation and interference from the outside world, you will naturally be easily distracted or distracted.

in the process of learning, boys often need more external guidance and points of interest to stay focused and self-disciplined. but traditional classes can easily make them bored. this results in boys often not performing as well as girls in the sedentary state.

michael gurian emphasized:"compared to girls, boys' brains rely more on spatial and operational stimulation, so they are naturally more inspired by diagrams, pictures and moving objects than by monotonous language."

therefore, at this stage, it is not that boys do not want to learn, but that the boring pure language output in class is like listening to the "book of heaven" for them, and it is easy for their thoughts to become distracted and their minds to wander in class.

when we see boys who are making jokes and sitting on pins and needles in class, we should not blame them for not taking class seriously, because they have also suffered from delayed development.

2. the design of today’s education system is not suitable for boys’ characteristics.

education expert sun yunxiao pointed out in the book "saving boys":"the crisis for boys is actually a crisis for education."

in his view, the current education system bears the primary responsibility for the boys' crisis. the quality of an education system depends on whether it is conducive to the personality development of children, so that the life potential of both boys and girls can be developed to the maximum extent. but "examination-oriented education is the most ferocious killer of boys' growth crisis."

① being punished more because of nature

psychology professor ye bin once said - when raising a boy, you must be able to withstand the "abuse". they are late-maturing, irritable, trouble-making, and adventurous...

but in fact, we often have little patience with boys and a lot of blame.

a british study shows that boys are criticized more than five times more often than girls for being naughty in class.

because of his lagging learning ability and poor self-control, the boy was often scolded. although we know that late puberty and hyperactivity in boys are not “physical disorders,” boys are often punished more for their nature.

②boy’s thinking mode is not suitable for taking exams

"the current education method, which uses class teaching as the main mode, confines children in a space of tens of square meters, and listens attentively as the main learning method. as a boy whose gender characteristic is 'running' and is used to learning in practice, he will there is an instinctive resistance.”

boys who are naturally active are more suitable for learning in sports. however, our current education system has been suppressing the characteristics of boys.

on the contrary, the advantages of girls have been exaggerated. being able to sit still, remember clearly, be organized clearly, and speak rich language all give them an "advantage" in exam-oriented education.

in primary and secondary school, boys' self-confidence is severely affected, their sense of achievement is lower, and it is more difficult for them to develop interest and self-motivation in learning.

②boys have to go through too many hurdles when growing up.

in elementary school, they worry about boys being naughty and hyperactive; in middle school, they worry about boys being addicted to mobile phones and games; in college, they worry about boys falling into pornography traps. it can be said that in the process of raising a boy, there are hurdles to pass at every stage.

among the many growth hotlines, psychological counseling, and internet addiction treatment institutions, boys often seek help more than girls.

game addiction, in particular, has a fatal impact on boys’ studies. the light + sound + moving image features of the game hit the exciting point of the boy's brain. and having poor natural self-control makes it difficult for boys to control themselves when faced with the temptation of games.

a study by alan rice, a professor of psychiatry at stanford university, proved that boys are more likely to get pleasure from games than girls and are 2-3 times more likely to become addicted.

in 2022, guangxi normal university ordered 69 undergraduates to drop out of school because they were addicted to games and delayed their studies. most of the students who were expelled for gaming were boys.

no matter boy or girl,

good parenting starts with understanding and acceptance

some people say that being a boy these days is too much of a disadvantage.

but in fact, boys and girls have their own difficulties, and what they need is more tolerance and understanding.

the famous american social philosopher michael gurian wrote in his book "boys and girls learn differently":

“differences in the brains of men and women are not evidence that one sex is better or worse.

there are some things that boys can do better than girls, and there are other things that girls can do better than boys.these are due to the different developmental characteristics of the brains of boys and girls that are programmed in nature.however, this does not mean that one gender is superior to others in terms of social status or moral level. "[4]

although there are differences in raising men and women, the purpose remains the same——

water with love and understanding, and help grow with trust and companionship.