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nearly a month after the opening of primary schools, many parents complained that their children were unwilling to go to school, "writing a row of characters for two hours", "writing good chinese characters as oracle bone script", "cannot write pinyin neatly". across the country, the scene of "parents are loving and filial when children do not do homework, but chaos when they do homework" often occurs.

a netizen complained about helping his child with homework. photo/a social platform

recently, there were media reports that some new first-grade parents even quit their jobs to accompany their children through the first-grade adaptation period. on social media, many parents also complained that "being a first-grade parent is difficult."

netizens complained about how difficult it is to be a first-grade parent. photo from a social platform

the reporter searched online and found that in addition to the problems of picking up and dropping off children and their children's adaptation, the problem of helping their children with homework is also a problem. the problem of helping their children with homework can be roughly divided into several aspects: literacy or reading difficulties, slow learning of pinyin, slow and poor writing, poor math calculation, and procrastination in doing homework.

these "learning difficulties" revealed by children can make parents quite anxious. "what should i do if i can't learn math well?" "how can i learn with such a small vocabulary?" "there are many children in the class who scored 100 points, but my child only scored more than 90 points and fell behind." "he fell behind in the first grade, won't his self-confidence be frustrated?"

is it really that difficult to adjust to first grade? how should children and parents get through this period?

[1] teacher: it is not difficult to adapt to the first grade. once the children have a sense of rules, they will be able to assimilate with each other.

on september 23, a teacher at a public primary school in wuhan told reporters that the first-grade textbooks this year have been completely revised, and teachers and children are making new attempts. the chinese subject is currently learning pinyin, and the mathematics subject has reached addition and subtraction within 5.

many netizens said that the first month is the most difficult adaptation period for first-grade children. teacher cheng mentioned, "at the beginning of the school year, the children felt unfamiliar and distant because they had just transitioned from kindergarten to first grade and had a new environment and teacher. some children would pretend to have stomachaches and get upset. gradually, they found that it didn't work, and slowly adapted to the rhythm of elementary school."

she believes that it is not difficult to adapt to the first grade. most children are not as "weak and helpless" as parents think. after they establish a sense of rules, they will assimilate and adapt very smoothly. school is the "small society" of children. they need to learn how to solve problems and how to get along with others, rather than being overprotected blindly, which hinders their natural growth.

wang, a teacher at a public primary school in wuhan, told reporters that in the first grade adaptation stage, in addition to the problem of learning discipline, some children also need to improve their ability to take care of themselves. "some children rarely go to the toilet, some dare not raise their hands to go to the toilet, some wet their pants in class, there are all kinds of situations."

"if a child still doesn't do his homework and doesn't follow discipline after a month, it may be because no one is supervising him or he just doesn't obey discipline, which may lead to him becoming a 'bad student' in elementary school." teacher wang said that if you encounter a "naughty child", it is difficult to change his behavior relying solely on teachers, and he really needs the guidance and restraint of parents.

teacher cheng believes that parents do not need to be too anxious when their children enter the first grade, so as to avoid putting pressure on their children and causing them to dislike studying. the knowledge points in the first grade are relatively simple, and the focus is on cultivating children's learning habits and writing habits.

[2] experts: parents’ main anxiety comes from academic anxiety. when accompanying children, parents should follow their nature and development rules.

regarding the complaints and complaints from first-grade parents, luo ping, a preschool education researcher in jianghan district, wuhan, and a special-grade teacher in hubei province, believes that many new parents are actually very ignorant about preschool education and are also influenced by information on the internet, which leads to information asymmetry and academic anxiety. she explained the relevant issues:

1. slow writing may be due to inadequate development of fine motor skills.

"for example, some children are slow in writing pinyin, which may be due to their inability to maintain fine motor skills. it is not necessarily that they do not know or cannot write, but it may be that they have not practiced fine motor skills enough and have a little difficulty in controlling the pen."

under the posts where parents complained about their children’s ugly handwriting, the reporter found that many parents shared that they sent their children to calligraphy classes in advance, so their handwriting was neater and more standardized.

however, some netizens said that for first-grade children, writing is like drawing. only by encouraging children more can their confidence in writing be stimulated. the more they write, the better their writing will be.

netizens' comments. photo/a social platform

2. pinyin is learned slowly and written in an irregular manner, so the impact on subsequent reading and literacy is not that great.

"chinese is our mother tongue, and pinyin is just a transitional tool. after this stage, you will find that your child's reading and literacy have improved, and there will be no problem with reading and comprehension."

3. there may be multiple reasons why a child has trouble concentrating and procrastinates on doing homework in and out of class.

"a child from my relative's family was doing dictation in class, and the teacher said she was not paying attention and missed things. when her parents asked her, they found out that she knew all the content, but maybe she learned it from an app or from a preschool-primary school transition class, and she felt bored so she skipped class." luo ping mentioned that some parents would send their children to preschool training classes, and the children would lose interest in the content they learned when school started. it is very common for children to procrastinate in doing homework, so don't be impatient, and slowly cultivate learning habits and initiative.

4. the "advantage" of having attended kindergarten-primary school transition classes will not last long.

many parents send their children to kindergarten-primary school transition classes to feel at ease, thinking that they can get a head start by attending these classes. according to cctv.com, liang huijuan, a professor at tianjin normal university, said that by the end of november or no later than december, the grades of these children (who learn in advance) have already leveled out when they enter primary school. for normal children, those who have not learned the first-grade textbook knowledge in advance are very willing to listen and follow the teacher, so their learning commitment, concentration, listening ability, task awareness, and learning quality are better than those who learn in advance.

luo ping believes that if the child is slow to respond in all aspects, has obvious problems with discipline, and has obvious problems with group behavior, it is understandable that parents intervene early. the kindergarten-primary school transition class is sometimes just a consolation for parents.

5. most children have no major problems adapting to the first grade of primary school.

luo ping believes that the difficulty of the first grade is not really difficult. "there is not a big difference between 100 points and 90 points, but parents panic when their children fall behind. parents hope that teachers will like their children and think that the standard for teachers to evaluate students is good grades. in fact, this is also a misunderstanding of teachers. in fact, many times teachers like children with some special characteristics."

she suggested that parents should spend more time with their children during the first grade and learn to follow their children's nature and development rules. "it takes time and energy to educate children. in this process, we should cultivate good learning habits for children and pay attention to the cultivation of learning quality."

she believes that parents need to accompany their children in an appropriate way and provide guidance. they also need to trust teachers. only through cooperation between home and school can children be given the most comprehensive education and support. because in addition to helping children with homework, parents also need to pay full attention to and guide their children's emotions, living habits, learning habits, and hobbies.

reporter: yang dan