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I accepted a great many false ideas in my youth, and everything I built upon them afterwards was unreliable. - Descartes

1."The mistake is that she is too beautiful"

The 2000 film "Malèna" is an Italian drama film directed by Giuseppe Tornatore and starring Monica Bellucci and Giuseppe Sulfaro. It tells the story of a beautiful woman named Malèna in a small town in Sicily during World War II, who was envied, misunderstood and criticized by the townspeople because of her beauty. It reveals the complex emotions in human nature and the double standards of social morality.And the tragedy that beauty can bring.

Recently, a "similar" incident occurred in Hangzhou, Zhejiang. The owner of a small supermarket attracted a large number of male customers, especially delivery boys, because of her revealing clothes and coquettish voice... So the police came, and they were quite open-minded: the police can't control clothing issues, they can only manage social security.

What about public security? It turns out that the boss lady suffered more attacks due to the "tyranny" of public opinion. Some people even came to harass and insult her. She said that someone beat her... The police are in charge of these things, and they can't beat people! The police said that there was no beating, just minor physical contact...

Tragedy was born. Do you think this supermarket can continue to operate?

Some people say that if the boss lady doesn’t show her underwear, the customers will.

In the movie, Malena's husband died in World War II, and she became a widow, which made the men in the town begin to have improper thoughts about her, while the women spoke ill of her out of jealousy. Malena hired a lawyer to prove her innocence, but the lawyer said in court:

"Her mistake is that she is too beautiful."

Oh, so what did the supermarket owner do wrong?

The mistake is that she is wearing too little?

The mistake is that she spoke too coquettishly?

The problem is, she is too pretty?

2.The essence of gender equality is economic equality

I don't think the supermarket owner did anything wrong.

If we have to say there is something wrong, it is the fault of this society.

True gender equality has not been achieved.

It doesn't mean that men can bare their chests and expose their breasts, but women can't.

That's not what I mean. Of course there are physiological and psychological differences between men and women. This is human nature and is determined by heaven.

But at the sociological level, men and women should have certain basic equality in basic rights and awareness.

If the supermarket owner was replaced by a handsome guy with eight-pack abs, female customers would visit her every day.

Do you think it's okay? No one will bother him, and a bunch of women will come out and shout moral slogans or even beat him up...

What does this mean? Men and women are not equal.

Why is this happening? Apart from the things that are destined by heaven, I think it is essentially caused by economic inequality.

If the income of everyone, regardless of gender, is generally above the same level, let's just say that everyone is rich, men don't have to deliver food, and women don't have to sell their bodies in exchange for sales, will stories like "The Sicilian Supermarket Owner" still appear?

No, if there is going to be one, it will only be a "Ximen Qing of Sicily", and that is purely a personal moral issue, not a social issue.

3.The premise of self-respect and self-love is "he respects him and loves him"

Only by facing both sexes squarely can we face human nature squarely.

The opposite is also true: only by facing human nature squarely can we face both sexes squarely.

Should we face the relationship between genders first or face human nature first?

I think there is still a difference in order.

"Facing the two sexes squarely" is more like a result, while "facing human nature squarely" is like a starting point.

In a society, if we only emphasize "facing both genders" but turn a blind eye to other things in human nature, it is conceivable that the result will not be satisfactory. Isn't this the case with the society we live in now?

Many people - from top to bottom - talk about clean and upright conduct, but adopt an ostrich strategy when it comes to basic human nature. There are many examples of this, and various factors that manipulate the many legitimate and reasonable demands of the people are everywhere. Going to the bank to withdraw money from your account has also become full of obstacles (artificially shifting the cost of law enforcement in the name of anti-fraud, dragging the majority of people to be buried with the minority)... Why are there calls every day to "let the people run less errands" and "make things convenient for the people"... The same thing happened to the supermarket owner's wife. The unfair treatment that the people have suffered in the field of people's livelihood is really hard to describe - "beating" and "manipulating" ordinary people, isn't that ignoring human nature?

In this context, no matter what slogans you shout to ordinary people, they will not believe it. If you don't face up to the human nature of ordinary people, how can ordinary people face up to the society they live in?

We can only settle for the next best thing: "preserve the principles of heaven and eliminate human desires"...

Ask everyone to "respect and love themselves".

It is certainly right to respect oneself, but if there is no "respect for others", if the temple does not respect the rivers and lakes, if the upper beam does not respect the lower beam, if the boat does not love the water... then how can we talk about self-respect and self-respect? Why don't leading cadres "respect themselves"? Is the so-called self-respect and self-respect just about dressing appropriately? Obviously not.

Scantily clad clothes are like a social metaphor, and the supermarket owner is like a hook, which not only hooks out "lechers" and "moral thugs", but also hooks out the disturbing social situation - there are dangers under the melon fields and plum trees, and a gentleman should not stand under a dangerous wall. These all make sense, but if there are dangerous walls everywhere, where should you and I stand?