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in the new semester, students and parents face a series of challenges, from adapting to the new environment to managing study pressure, from social difficulties to the role positioning of family education. these problems are common at all stages of education.

this issue of tencent news "required courses for the new school year" special program invitationchen zhiwen, editor-in-chief of china education online, guo feng, principal of the national branch of chen jinglun middle school, and yu xiaobing, a chinese teacher at the experimental middle school affiliated to beijing normal university, we explore these phenomena in depth, provide professional guidance and practical strategies to help students smoothly transition to the new semester, and at the same time provide parents with advice on mindset adjustment and educational methods.

chen zhiwen: in the new semester, how can we get children to put down their mobile phones and computers and embrace the new pace of life and study?

guo feng：children who have strong self-control over electronic products are indeed a minority, so the ministry of education has clearly stipulated that parents and teachers need to help children develop good study habits after they go to school. the information sources provided by electronic products are richer, more diverse, and more convenient than those provided by schools. school learning focuses more on certain areas, so it is not as attractive as the world provided by electronic products. parents must be resolute on this issue and help children use more efficient methods to acquire more useful knowledge and form standardized study habits.

in modern society, children may learn knowledge in school secondarily. the perseverance and scientific learning methods formed in the process of learning culture and knowledge will accompany children throughout their lives. electronic products often make children break such perseverance and habits. on the surface, we see that mobile phones and tablets affect academic performance, but what is more important is that the will of children to pursue self-shaping and self-ideals will become scattered. therefore, if parents are too permissive during this critical period of life shaping, it is indeed not good for children's lives.

electronic products can be used as a tool to assist learning. during the use process, parents and children can study and learn together. if the conditions are not met, such as the parents' own cultural quality is not good enough, they can let their children use it within a limited time. this is good for children. of course, the most important point isparents must be ruthless and have the courage to do it.

chen zhiwen: some children are moving from primary school to junior high school, or from junior high school to high school. faced with the change in their children's identity and role, some parents often don't know what to do. what advice or suggestions can you give to these parents?

yu xiaobing: parents should understand one thing in particular: learning is the child's business, not the parents' business. children are the main body of learning, and parents cannot learn on behalf of their children. nowadays, many parents are actually very responsible and care about their children's learning, but this way of caring is problematic. they pay attention to the content of their children's learning, learn things with their children at the same time, and even learn in advance. i particularly disagree with this. i often encounter such parents. when their children make mistakes on a certain question in the exam, they can't wait to ask the teacher to explain it to them, and then go back to explain it to their children. whenever i encounter this situation, i will tell the parents to let the children take the initiative to ask, and there is no need for parents to be a second-hand person and go home to explain it to the children.

education itself is a very professional matter, and parents are not professionals. a math or chinese problem may seem very simple, but parents will think from an adult’s perspective that the child cannot even solve such a simple problem, which means the child must not have paid attention in class. parents will treat the child with an accusatory attitude and even say unpleasant words to the child. in fact, this is very harmful to the child.

whether teachers are educating children or parents are tutoring children, they should have this kind of cognition, that is,don't treat or tutor your child from the perspective of a top student, but look at your child from the perspective of a poor student.as an adult, you already have so much educational background, you think this matter must be so simple, but the child will really feel very painful at a certain point, he just can't figure it out, he can't understand it. you think this matter seems easy, but for him, it is a huge obstacle. soyou must bend down to support your child. if parents are not sure, they should leave it to the teacher. what parents should do is to consciously communicate with their children, and then help their children establish good study habits in daily life. as for specific knowledge, skills and exams, there is no need to intervene more and more deeply. sometimes, the more you care, the more confused you become. children may even feel that they don’t need to concentrate at school, because they will have tutoring at home. this is a bad thing.

guo feng: i think we should establish this concept. in fact, learning is just a game to shape children. so many parents care about their children's knowledge learning.hoping to chew the food yourself and then feed it back to your child is deviating from the basics.

in the process of children's learning, parents should shift their focus from their children's learning and their children's learning results to their children in learning. they should see whether a child has a spirit of self-responsibility from birth to adulthood? does he have a sense of purpose? will he be responsible for himself and consciously coordinate the resources around him? can he try to do something and abandon distractions or interference? when encountering setbacks, can he adjust himself? when the goal is achieved, will he get carried away? when the goal cannot be achieved, can he quickly reflect, find his own reasons, and then re-motivate himself? can he set a goal for himself that requires hard work to achieve, and is the only goal to achieve? these little bits and pieces are actually a child's efforts to shape his core competitiveness.

sono matter what the external environment is like, whether the school is good or bad, whether classmates can make friends, these are uncertain. the most certain thing is to shape yourself well., and as a child grows from a minor to an adult, as a parent, helping the child gradually develop habits, abilities and qualities that can shape core competitiveness is to cultivate their certainty. so playing the game of learning well depends on what the player is like. a good player can have the best performance in any game, which is the most certain thing.

chen zhiwen: the day before my child started first grade, i had a serious talk with him. i told him that he was going to school the next day. going to school is never a particularly pleasant thing, but we still have to do our best to do it well. i want to emphasize that this is your business. i can't enjoy it if the teacher praises you. if you don't do well and your classmates laugh at you, i can't take the blame for you. so i think parents must let their children understand that going to school is his business and his responsibility.anxiety about the new semester is a normal social phenomenon. this will all pass. for new students or parents, success or failure is normal. there is no need to be overly anxious. this is a process of our growth and we will all gain something from it.

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