2024-09-21
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xiaoqing (pseudonym)my mother was diagnosed with alzheimer's disease two years ago.at the beginning of last year, because of her mother's illness, she returned to her hometown and rented a small courtyard to take care of her mother.now i live in my favorite city in the south, enjoying a slow-paced life.
xiaoqing is 36 years old, unmarried and childless. she has no experience in caring for patients or children. she can only keep learning and exploring. using her previous experience of overcoming anxiety and depression, she developed a cognitive training plan for her mother (drug and non-drug interventions are carried out simultaneously).
over the past few months, there have been pain and occasional laughter; i have experienced countless collapses, but also seen some difficult progress.
september 21st of every year is world alzheimer's day. in recent years, the trend of "younger" age-related diseases has become a trend, and alzheimer's disease is no exception. xiaoqing's story is also a story that more and more people born in the 1980s and even the 1990s have to experience.
the following is xiaoqing’s own account.
the names of the interviewees in this article are pseudonyms.
written by: xuezhu, linlin
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my mother is 60 years old this year. she was diagnosed with alzheimer's disease two years ago. it is early-onset alzheimer's disease, which means that people develop the disease before the age of 65. it is not rare. i learned from the patient's family group that many people developed the disease in their 50s.
in my opinion, my mother started to show signs of illness after she retired. i was not at home at the time, but i heard from my family that she didn't like to go out, didn't like to eat, and would think a lot and was very emotional.
her family took her to the city hospital (a city in hebei province) for treatment. she had a ct scan and various tests, all of which were normal, including no cerebellar atrophy. the doctor only diagnosed her with anxiety and prescribed some medicine for her.we thought her poor condition was caused by her emotions, but when she showed symptoms of alzheimer's disease, it was too late and the treatment was missed.
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my mother used to be very smart, but now that she is sick she can only figure out how many plus one equals how many, and she can't do any more difficult calculations. she doesn't recognize herself in the mirror and always says someone is following her.
this is due to the degeneration of brain nerves, and she has developed personal orientation disorder.i have covered up all the mirrors in my house, but reflections are inevitable. there is really nothing you can do about it in modern society, as there is glass everywhere.
my mother is timid to begin with, and now she is very scared when she sees the person in the mirror. i explain to her the principle of reflection, and tell her that the person in the mirror is her, "look at the color of clothes you are wearing, is the person in the mirror also wearing the same color?" "look, i wave my hand, and the person in the mirror also waves back at me." she will ask "is this really me?" "why is she smiling at me?"
i explained to her, but often felt like she wasn't listening.in fact, it’s not that she can’t listen, but her brain can no longer understand these things.the fact that things worked out was because she trusted me.
sometimes i would say to her, "mom, i'm here, don't be afraid," and she might smile and not be so nervous. but if i wasn't there, she might stare at the mirror by herself, getting angrier and angrier, and then she would get stuck and unable to get out.
she started hallucinating and making up stories, so i just followed what she said and asked her where she met someone and who she met, and i roughly knew what age she had returned to.
she often returns to her childhood and to her parents. once she cried very sadly, saying that her mother didn't want her anymore and ignored her. at this time, i asked her "who is the most important?" like a brainwashing slogan, and then told her "you are the most important" and "being happy every day is the most important."
i would also do something to divert her attention, such as cleaning her ears, applying facial masks, etc.sometimes it works, and she gets better after cleaning her ears; sometimes it doesn't, and she remembers it again after cleaning. this makes the caregiver very nervous, because you don't know when her hallucinations will come out.
sometimes she would break down and cry, her emotions were completely out of control, and she would even hurt others. when i first took her to my home at the time, she broke down for ten consecutive days. it wasn't that she broke down 24 hours a day, but after i finally pulled her out of her emotions and diverted her attention, she would soon go back to her feelings.
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my mother sometimes says, "they say i have this or that disease." i guess she must have known what disease she had before, but she is just slowly forgetting about it. i think it's acceptable, there's no need to force her to remember what disease she has.
when she was conscious, she once told me that she didn't want to live anymore. she might not be able to accept that she had this disease. i told her now that she had memory impairment. i also said that my memory was not good, so we should exercise our memory.
i took my mother to do various cognitive training.i know that this disease has not been conquered yet, and the overall trend is going downhill, and its development process is irreversible. at this stage, in addition to taking medicine, i am trying to slow down her brain decline through some exercises.
at first, i was completely confused, so i tried every method i could think of. i had worked in some children's courses before, so i started by teaching children's thinking: my mother's cognitive state may be that of a two or three-year-old child, so what can i teach her in chinese? what can i teach her in mathematics?
every day i tried different methods, and sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. i bought some books on training concentration, such as asking my mother to draw lines following existing shapes. my mother couldn't do it, so i had to change the method to train her concentration. after searching for a long time, i found a wooden tetris puzzle, which worked well.
source: provided by the interviewee
i also bought checkers. i thought it was simple, just jumping every other card, but later i found that it didn't work. for my mother, playing cards are the best. i would draw a card and ask her if she knows the number or the pattern on it, or set up some simple games, such as comparing the size or asking her to sort.
my friends sent me toys that their children played with, and i tried them out one by one. i also designed various small games for my mother to play. my mother had a lot of fun playing with sandbags. this game can train her concentration because she has to aim when throwing, and it can also train her sense of space.
my friends all say that i work harder than before, and there’s nothing i can do about it.i work for survival, and now i am completely racing against life.
after almost 3 months, i think i have found some methods that she likes, and she has gradually shown progress. she can now remember what year it is, which she couldn't do before. now she knows what 3 plus 2 equals, and can recite multiplication formulas.
for patients with alzheimer's disease, it is important to develop habits. once diagnosed, you must start to cultivate some habits for her from now on, because in the later stages, her behavior will be more uncontrollable. if it is uncontrollable, you can only hope that her muscle memory will be used.
swipe up and down to see more.for methe cognitive training program my mother created, source: provided by the interviewee
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i will often praise her to make her feel happy.when she helps with housework, i say, "you're great!" "great!" she sometimes says, "you treat me like a child."
people of their generation are not very good at accepting compliments, and i have been influenced by them. i am not particularly good at accepting compliments either, and i will refuse when others compliment me. therefore, the process of accompanying her in cognitive training is to adjust her and myself.
i think on the one hand, i should treat the patient as an adult. i should not stop her from working just because she is sick, but should cultivate her execution ability. on the other hand, emotionally, i can no longer treat her as a mother, but as a daughter. i should take care of her and help her solve her problems.
i am a parent now.
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after interacting with alzheimer's patients, i feel that this disease expands human nature.
if we were like this, we would be controlled by reason. when patients are happy, they will laugh, and when they are unhappy, they will cry and collapse. they cannot control themselves.
my mother never showed her love of dancing before she got sick. when i asked her to go to the park, she always said there were too many men downstairs and she didn't want to go. maybe she was afraid that she wouldn't dance well. now she doesn't care if she dances well or not, she just dances when she wants to. she can't remember the moves and can't keep up with others. she often improvises and dances whatever moves she thinks are suitable for the music.
i played some classical music for her at home, and she could feel what the music was trying to express and dance along. i think she at least has a sense for it, if not a talent. but she never insisted on dancing before, but now sometimes she would ask me in the morning, "are you still dancing today?"
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for a long time, i had a sense of "illness shame".
when i take my mom out and someone asks me about something, i can answer, “my mom has alzheimer’s disease.” i have no problem with that. but i’m afraid of people asking me, “why did she get this disease?” “why does she cry?” i also want to ask others, and i want to know why, but these questions have no answers. so, i’m afraid of people asking questions.
moreover, this disease disturbs others. when i was living in my previous residence, my mother started crying and breaking down on the street, and kept saying that she wanted to find her mother. i almost couldn't bring her home. i had no choice but to ask the neighbors for help, and then i brought her home.
when she got home she was still in a state of collapse.this was the time when i felt the strongest sense of "illness shame".
i saw those mentally ill patients in anding hospital, crying, cursing, and even hitting people. their family members stood by and did not dare to speak loudly. i felt very pitiful. in fact, i was similar to them.
alzheimer's disease is not just a decline in memory or a lack of memory about family members as shown in some movies and tv shows.in fact, patients are limited by brain neurodegenerative diseases and often cannot control themselves. they will yell, cry, and collapse.
if you encounter such an elderly person outside, i hope you can understand the experience of the patient and his family. the elderly person himself has no problem, it is only because of illness that he has these symptoms.
when my mom is around during the day, i am still able to fight. but when she leaves, i become paralyzed. sometimes, when my mom doesn't come over during the day, i will lie down at home for the whole day. this is completely meaningless and does not help me at all. i feel very uncomfortable lying down, but i don't have the energy to change.
i'm currently paying off my mortgage and spending my previous savings. my social security and other things have also been cut off, and i've applied for unemployment insurance. i had planned to take care of my mom while working part-time, but i really haven't had the energy to do anything else in the past few months.
i originally planned to take care of my mother for about a year, but now i want to postpone it for a while. i want to delay the arrival of the latter stage as much as possible. when she is incontinent and unconscious, i want to chat with her, but she won't respond to me. now we can still communicate.
every day now is definitely the time when my mother is in the best condition, and i don’t want to have any regrets.
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li jingjing(professor and chief physician of department of neurology, beijing tiantan hospital)reviews:
first, to the interviewees of this articlexiaoqinglike it!
as the patient's daughter, she provided the patient with very humane companionship and care. at the same time, she helped the patient with cognitive training based on the development of the patient's condition and her own experience in training young children's thinking. these non-drug treatments and services for alzheimer's disease are very meaningful for improving the patient's quality of life and extending the patient's dignified life span.
alzheimer's disease (ad) is a progressive, slow degenerative neurological disorder that usually occurs in old age.with the acceleration of population aging, the number of ad patients is increasing rapidly. it is estimated that by 2050, the number of patients in the world will reach more than 100 million.
there are three major pathological features in the brains of ad patients: amyloid plaque deposition formed by the accumulation of β-amyloid protein (aβ), aggregation of highly phosphorylated microtubule-associated protein tau protein (p-tau) to form neurofibrillary tangles and neurodegeneration.
as our understanding of alzheimer's disease grows, the disease is now divided into three stages.
the three stages of alzheimer's disease
● stage 1: asymptomatic period
except for some abnormalities found in cerebrospinal fluid testing and pet examination, it is difficult to find pathological symptoms clinically.
● stage 2: mild cognitive impairment
cognitive functions such as memory will be slightly affected, but daily life will not be affected.
● stage 3: dementia
there are obvious impairments in memory, executive function, and attention, and life and social functions are significantly affected;
it is often accompanied by disorders of perception, behavior, thinking and mood, which not only have a negative impact on the patient's own life and mental state, but also increase the burden on the family and society.
note: the new guidelines for the diagnosis of alzheimer's disease will be launched before the end of 2023, and the stages will be divided into more detailed
depression
artz
alzheimer's disease
mood changes
long-lasting depressive state
mood changes frequently and are out of control
smart changes
intellectual decline is temporary and partial
the damage is comprehensive, persistent and long-lasting
neurological symptoms
no neurological symptoms
accompanied by neurological symptoms and signs
memory
can be recalled with appropriate reminders
difficulty in alleviating forgetfulness through simple reminders, often answering questions irrelevantly
sense of direction
rarely get lost
in severe cases, the patient may lose his or her sense of direction and often get lost or wander off.
efficacy
after taking antidepressants for 2 to 3 weeks, depression will improve significantly.
the effect of medication is not obvious
planning and production
interview and compilation | xuezhu popular science author; linlin popular science author
interviewed expert: li jingjing, professor and chief physician of the department of neurology, beijing tiantan hospital
reviewer: tang qin, director and researcher of the science popularization department of the chinese medical association
planning丨lin lin
editor: meng ru
proofread by xu lai
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