he studied n world celebrities and finally discovered the secret of "late bloomer"... ordinary families should not waste their children's vitality too early.
2024-09-25
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highlightsthere are many stories of "genius teenagers" in ancient and modern times, both in china and abroad, who eventually ended up like zhongyong. why do some people achieve success at a young age, while others achieve success later in life? carl gard, publisher of forbes magazine, decided to explore the laws of brain development in order to find the secret of success.
since the 1980s, our society has become obsessed with creating images of "young and promising" and gifted people.mark zuckerberg, steve jobs, bill gates, these geniuses who became billionaires before the age of 30 have become the objects of media pursuit.this cultural atmosphere of obsession with young people's success requires young people to achieve more and succeed quickly. as a result, parents, teachers, and the education system are constantly urging children to“don’t fall behind the starting line”, which continues to exacerbate social parenting anxiety.the father in the movie "learning dad" who wants his children to win at the starting linebut,rich karlgaard, american journalist and publisher of forbes magazineresearch works:late bloomer（Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement）in it, he for the first time turned the public's attention to those "late bloomers" who slowly explored and eventually achieved success.he said:"becoming a talent at a young age" is not necessarily a prerequisite for lifelong success.the real test of life begins at the age of 25.author rich karlgard and his book late bloomersthe reality is that most of us aren’t gifted child prodigies. we slowly discover our passions and talents over time.for example:founded kfc at the age of 65harlan sanders；
jk rowling, who became a bestselling author at the age of 32;
bertrand russell, who won the nobel prize for literature at the age of 79;
and us president biden.
for most people,"successful achievements at a young age" is not a must; "late bloomer" truly lays the foundation for countless possibilities for success.
a society suffering from "juvenile success fever"young elites are a topic that never gets boring in today's era, with the media and the spotlight relentlessly pursuing the halo of young geniuses.magnus carlsen, a norwegian, is a genius who became the world champion three times at the age of 25. at the age of 21, he became the youngest world chess champion in history. at the age of 23, he was selected as one of the "100 most influential people in the world" by time magazine. at the age of 30, he was named a chess master. (photo source: documentary "magnus")
of course, there is nothing wrong with praising and encouraging these young people to become famous. after all, all types of achievements deserve recognition and praise from the public.when a society overly pursues "young and promising",this subtle psychological suggestion will create a society suffering from the "youth success mania".whether in china or abroad, modern education is generally caught in a certain anxiety: if one's children do not excel in the college entrance examination and enter a top prestigious university; or find a decent job in a high-end company, then their lives seem to have been equated with "failure."in the high-pressure urban living environment, many parents worry that their children will be left behind by their peers., forcing children to be ahead and show wisdom or talents beyond their age level. educational institutions that saw business opportunities also joined in and added fuel to the fire.the atlanta international school in the united states has launched a "full immersion second language program" for three-year-old children, with annual tuition fees as high as $20,000.screenshot of columbia grammar school's official websitesimilarly, at columbia grammar school in new york, three- and four-year-olds will receive a "rigorous academic curriculum" and run back and forth between three libraries, six music rooms, and seven art studios. the annual tuition is $37,000.these educational institutions have only one goal, which is to "lay the foundation for children's future and send them to prestigious universities."but the question is, is early success a necessary prerequisite for achieving success and fulfillment in life? the answer may be just the opposite.many children who become talented at a young age are likely to face the crisis of diminished abilities when they grow up.google once believed in the leading advantage of young talents because their founders were two graduates ofstanford universitythe top students all have amazing sat math scores.google's two founders: larry page, sergey brinimage source: facebook: ieee csin the first two years of its founding, google hired many young computer scientists and math prodigies based on the standards of the two genius founders, but then google discovered that the company's personnel structure was unbalanced.this imbalance led directly to the costly mistake of designing google’s homepage, and it also led google to finally realize that having a high sat score and a degree from a prestigious school is not enough to predict an employee’s career success at the company.francis scott fitzgerald, the author of the great gatsby, was a young and promising man.princeton university, he achieved great literary success when he was only in his 20s.
but this was the pinnacle of his life.
after the age of 30, francis' life began to go downhill. he died tragically at the age of 44...f. scott fitzgerald (source: wikipedia)
late bloomer is also a kind of honorin reality, human potential is far greater than we think, and it will be realized much later than we think.researchers have found that our brain's executive functions don't mature until we are 25 years old.the process of fully developing qualities such as curiosity and insight may continue into your 40s, 50s, or even 60s.furthermore, there is a time lag between the development of the limbic system (which generates emotions) and the prefrontal cortex (which regulates emotions). the limbic system undergoes an explosive growth due to puberty, while the prefrontal cortex does not mature for another 10 years.during this stage, people’s emotions take over and their influence outweighs the ability to think rationally, strategically, and consider consequences.the emotions that change due to puberty in "inside out 2"
that is, most 18-25 year olds are actually unable to make responsible choices, have insufficient attention span, and are not good at managing their emotions, yet this is the age at which their achievements for the rest of their lives are evaluated and they are asked to make choices for the rest of their lives through tests, grades, and job interviews.this doesn't really make sense."becoming famous at a young age" is just an accident. life is full of late bloomers.most of them experienced embarrassment and failure in their early years, started slowly, and only moved towards success calmly in middle age or even old age.richie himself is proof of being a late bloomer:he graduated from stanford university at the age of 25. although he had a diploma from a prestigious university, he could only work as a security guard in a truck yard. the most important thing he did every day was to walk back and forth with a flashlight, listening to the faint barking of dogs outside the wall. one day, when richie climbed over the fence of the yard next door, he found that the security guard next door was actually arottweiler, which hit him hard:i am already 25 years old and a top student at stanford.also 25 years oldsteve jobs, and within a few months he would take apple public, which promoted changes in the computer industry and became a legend.and i am so poor and my professional colleague is a dog.
this is richie before he was 25 years old.
rich's brain began to awaken at the age of 26, and he found a job as a writer of scientific articles in a research institute.at the age of 29, he and a friend founded a company that later became the number one public utility organization in silicon valley.at 34, he co-founded silicon valley's first business magazine.at 38, he joined forbes and launched a technology magazine.at the age of 44, he officially became the publisher of forbes and started his speaking career around the world.
author rich karlgard talks about the concept of "late bloomers" at ted in 2018looking back on the years, rich found that the turning points of his career almost all occurred when he was about to turn 30. he slowly found the direction of his life: he began to turn off the tv news and read the wall street journal and the new york times, as well as political journals of various ideologies, to explore his great passion for writing and journalism.the so-called world of success finally opened up to him when he was 44 years old.
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famous astronaut scott kelly has spent more than 500 days in space, making him the longest-serving american astronaut in space. he said his high school years were very boring and he was a student in the middle of the class."i spent most of my time staring out the classroom window. even if you held a gun to my head, i still wouldn't be able to concentrate on the class."no one could have predicted what legendary achievements this ordinary, un-read little boy would have in the future.screenshot of scott kelly's official websitebut our society lacks the patience to wait.the slow development of the brain clashes with society's drive to test and stimulate very young children, leading to a society that tests children more rigorously than ever before in an effort to discover their talents.the problem is that only a small percentage of people under 25 are able to show their potential as teenagers.instead of excelling during this period, most people are likely to suffer from high-stakes, high-pressure competitions where teachers and parents set the rules.in the 2014-2015 school year, three students from gann high school near stanford university committed suicide due to the pressure of being successful. all three were hardworking and good students. in march of the same school year, 42 students at the school were hospitalized or received treatment for suicidal thoughts.this phenomenon is not an isolated one. over the past 50 years, rates of depression and anxiety among american youth have been rising. today,the number of high school and college students meeting diagnostic criteria for major depression or anxiety disorders is at least five times, and perhaps eight times, what it was in the 1960s.this showsbeing pushed too much into achieving early success doesn’t work for everyone and can cause some damage to children’s mental and physical health.
however, society’s obsession with prodigies, exams, rankings, and categorizing young people, its preference for young achievers, and an increasingly algorithm-based economy that rewards innate speed rather than experience and wisdom have led to the collapse of these traditions.stills from the japanese movie "prodigy"the current education system pushes children onto a unified track too early.let the competition start from kindergarten, completely closing the path for a person to explore and discover their potential, which may be one of the main reasons why their value is ignored by society.in finland, children do not start attending school until they are 7 years old., learn how to read, write and do arithmetic. before that, the only thing they have to do is to cultivate their curiosity, be active and explore, and then go into the classroom and receive education.
they are not anxious, but their academic performance is far ahead.
therefore, what we need to think about is, where is the starting point of those late bloomers?
they are likely to have skills and strengths that are ignored by society and the education system, are not adapted to the current learning model, or are unable to grow according to the principles of scientific management.a person's life is a process of constant exploration and discovery, and most people will experience multiple peaks of cognition in their lifetime.laura germine of harvard university and joshua hartshorne of mit conducted a study in 2015:“during which decade of life do our cognitive abilities peak?”this is a very complex and interesting question.because the answer depends entirely on what kind of cognitive ability you are talking about, and different forms of cognitive ability may be uniquely valuable at different ages.for example, your quick reaction and information processing abilities made you a programmer at the age of 20.
but in your 30s, 40s, and 50s, deeper pattern recognition, empathy, and communication skills come into play, which are necessary to help you become a leader.
then, in your 60s and 70s, a whole set of attributes called wisdom comes into play.
“at any age, you’re going to get better at some things, you’re going to get worse at some things, you’re going to get stuck at some things.you don’t reach a certain age where you’re good at everything.”as we age, our cognitive abilities decline, but we continue to acquire new skills as we age, until we reach the end of our lives. everyone has a lot of room for future success, regardless of age.almost all healthy people can achieve something in different ways and at different ages.therefore, to create a prosperous society where everyone can achieve success,we need to respect the pace of personal growth, everyone should be given ample opportunities to evolve and develop their brains, talents, and passions on their own unique timeline.in this extremely competitive society, every child is urged to move forward and follow the path of success as expected by society. however, rich discovered the unique charm of late bloomers from another perspective:everyone has extraordinary potential. those who quietly accumulate resilience, vision and wisdom are also likely to reach the peak of their lives in their later years!
what we need to do is to learn from those who can achieve success without rushing, and to emulate their mentality of patiently waiting for results.finding your ultimate destiny in your own way according to your own plan is also a success.
references:
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[1]Mark C. Crowley: Rich Karlgaard: Forbres magazine publisher says:" Hall to the late bloomer, which is most of us."
[2]RealClear Markets：Book Review: Rich Karlgaard's "Late Bloomers"
Forbes：3 Cheers For Late Bloomers
[3]Rich Karlgaard：Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsessed with Early Achievement
[4]Late Bloomers: Why Good Things Come to Those Who Wait
'Late Bloomers' Makes The Case For Patience In A Culture Focused On Early Success
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