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as a self-media blogger in the rising stage of my career and an unmarried middle-aged person whose sexual orientation is suspected by society, i am always faced with two kinds of anxiety: traffic anxiety and marriage anxiety.

however, a new traffic track came into my sight:

“no gift”

i quickly scrolled through the foreign women who claimed that they did not want a dowry, were gentle, respectful, frugal, and full of female virtues, and i actually felt the pleasure of choosing a concubine.

as if it was made in heaven, i found the urge to do questions again and also found the original intention of falling in love.

“no gift”such videos are often accompanied by wedding scenes of chinese men marrying foreign beauties.

you can see all kinds of beauties in the capitalist first world declaring that they don’t want dowries. their mental state has reached the next level.

rational and rigorous german girls don't want a dowry.

classical and noble british girls don't ask for dowry.

switzerland has a beautiful environment and the highest average salary in the world. there is no dowry and marriages are all paid on an aa basis.

the passionate and romantic italian girls don't even want your dowry.

of course, chinese men who have expanded their international perspectives in the field of not requiring a bride price have also expanded their perspectives to southeast asia, where women in southeast asian countries also do not require a bride price when getting married.

now, the strong hong kong girls who have always made people's eyes turn long and hard have begun to respond to the call of men in mainland china, saying that they do not want dowries. integrity and kindness have returned.

since the ukrainian war, more ukrainian beauties on the internet no longer ask for dowries. they all want to marry to peaceful china.

on the other hand, since the war, sino-russian relations have become increasingly close, and more and more russian girls are yearning for china and falling in love with the gentleness of chinese men. in short, the emotional value is full, and chinese men are always the winners.

a large number of ips in border cities can find these contents on short video accounts

iwanka, the most beautiful woman in america and the daughter of the president, also wants to marry a chinese man, and she doesn't want a dowry.

so, the story starts here. wang po went from henan to jiangxi to act as a matchmaker. a woman came on stage to seek marriage, saying that women nowadays have awakened, and she hopes that the majority of male compatriots can open their eyes to the world, work hard, and not cry when their defenses are broken. the woman was also nicknamed "awakening sister".

"awakening sister" has made many men open their eyes to the world. many men have indeed seen it, but they are not looking at the world, but at foreign women who "do not want a dowry".

chinese attractive men are vigorously fighting against feudalism and dregs, and launching the "no dowry movement". they are introducing foreign brides who do not want a dowry to rectify my country's marriage market.

while secretly shouting to domestic women:"look, i'm asking for a high bride price from you. are you anxious now?"

the sexual distress track seems to have a large audience and has become a traffic code. in summary, it can be summarized into several points:

1. a man with ordinary looks and a bit of a tiger-like temperament (claiming to be a rural plus), and a foreign woman with a very good appearance.

2. foreign women are family-oriented and willing to have children.

3. add to that the copywriting content such as "foreign beauties are using cheap gifts to impact the market" and "chinese men are so popular".

while presenting a huge contrast visually, it also sells the dream of marrying a wife without a dowry to high-quality chinese men.

also a new media teacher

this reminds me of the 1990s, when taiwan's economy was booming, some men in economically disadvantaged and remote areas could not find wives, so they turned their attention to southeast asia and mainland china. many young men also said sourly that "taiwanese women are too expensive to marry", implying that they could find a southeast asian woman who would not cost too much money, be obedient, willing to have children, and be able to do housework. they threatened to "reversely eliminate" taiwanese women.

when a place's economy develops rapidly and women can become more independent with their own abilities, it is inevitable that some men whose economic capabilities do not meet their expectations will become anxious about "not being able to find a wife" and begin to fantasize about women in economically backward areas. it is not only taiwanese men who fantasize about southeast asian women and mainland women, but also the so-called "southern men and northern women" in south korea that follow the same logic.

when talking about the problem of "difficulties in finding a partner for older rural men", ding changfa, associate professor of economics at xiamen university, proposed opening up international marriages and introducing a large number of overseas young women of marriageable age. this simply provided expert support for the "foreign girl movement" of male compatriots. they waved their flags and shouted, demanding the formulation of a "foreign girl introduction plan" to solve their marriage and love problems.

but the saying that "older rural men have difficulty finding a partner" is actually a false proposition. as chizuko ueno said, the condition for "becoming a man" is to have a woman who belongs to him.

if you open the video of "no dowry", you will find that most of the comments below are of this style.

out of curiosity, i clicked on one of them and found an "honest and kind" old man. he said in a very sad tone that he rejected any temptation from women, while shouting that he wanted to be my husband.

after reading his remarks, i couldn't help but think of what engels said in "the origin of the family, private property and the state": the first class antagonism that appeared in history occurred simultaneously with the development of the antagonism between husband and wife under the individual marriage system, and the first class oppression occurred simultaneously with the oppression of women by men.

simply put, many men at the bottom of the food chain escape their fate by dragging a woman to cushion their backs.

wang huiling, the author of grassroots women, once used a metaphor to explain why many men leave comments on videos of single women in china: "you are old, no one wants you anymore," "who would want you if you are like this?", etc. because they are bargaining, just like when you buy something, if you really don't want it, will you bargain? not at all. they don't really want it, they are bargaining.

this is also why when many men have no other options at home, they turn their attention abroad.

they believe that foreign women are not after their money, but only after their person.

those who could only marry a wife by receiving a bride price are now unwilling to pay even that, hoping that foreign girls who “don’t want a bride price” will be attracted to them.

there is no need to explain what the essential meaning of the term "fragrant or not" is.

they did not just talk big, but took strong action and took the initiative. the comment section of the foreign female blogger was flooded with messages from these people, and the speed at which they left messages was faster than the reproduction of cockroaches.

faced with these charming chinese men who eagerly use english to harass foreign female bloggers, one netizen sharply commented: change all the translation software to paid ones and see if they can still make the jump.

what's worse, some people send private messages to foreign female bloggers in bulk, "girl, do you want to date me?" when the bloggers ignore them, they turn the tables and blame them, saying, "foreign girls are so cold."

it's like a goblin raping a female elf.

the prince thought: "i have already sent you a private message, why don't you cross the ocean and marry me?"

i can't help but wonder, do these people really think they can marry foreign beauties by just sending private messages and commenting on a certain audio app? at first i thought they were just playing a joke, but later i found out that i was wrong, they really thought so.

wake up, please. foreign girls have blonde hair and blue eyes, not blonde hair with closed eyes.

be it financial resources, appearance, talent, or physical strength, which woman does not have her own selection criteria when choosing a mate?

only a liar can give you the most beautiful dream in this world.

there was a news story before, in which an old man wanted to find a partner for his unmarried son in his 30s, so he introduced a vietnamese girl through an agent and asked for a gift of 200,000 yuan. but the agent was actually a liar. fortunately, the police discovered it in time, otherwise his son would not be able to marry a daughter-in-law and would have lost his savings of many years.

nowadays, there are more and more scams that help introduce foreign girlfriends, and even ai technology is used. those russian beauties who actively approach you "without a car, a house, or a dowry" may be generated by ai.

all ai generated

lower-class men always fantasize about foreign beauties working for them unconditionally and loving them alone without asking for anything in return. but let’s take a step back and discuss this: are transnational marriages with foreign women really “cheap”?

people who have this idea obviously don't know or don't want to know the relevant regulations. foreigners in transnational marriages must first apply for a 5-year visa after marriage. they are not allowed to work during these 5 years. only after 5 years can they apply for a chinese green card. only after that can they work normally. however, the probability of the application being approved is only 20%. in other words, there is an 80% probability that you will need to provide all financial support to the other party.

although there is no tradition of asking for a dowry in foreign countries, to marry a foreign woman, you still need to have a car, a house and savings. you also have to spend tens of thousands of dollars every year to visit your family. some economically backward countries, such as some women in southeast asian countries, also require money to be sent back to their hometown every year. they also have to consider practical factors, otherwise they will live on the street with you and starve to death? they just don't speak the language, not that they don't have brains.

in everyone's impression, japanese women are virtuous and do not want houses or dowries, but the financial power of the family needs to be controlled by the wife, and the husband can only receive a little pocket money. housewives who do not work can also join their husband's support insurance, which will be borne by the husband and his company. even if they divorce when they reach a certain age, they can still enjoy their husband's pension.

the so-called "foreign girls introduction plan" accuses domestic women of being demanding and materialistic in marriage and criticizes the high price of bride prices in the country.

in fact, for women who can support themselves, they do not need to solve the problem of survival through marriage. in many places, the bride price is only symbolic, or it is directly invested in the small family after being collected.

women who need to solve their survival problems through marriage are, after all, in an exchange of interests between families, and have to use dowries to exchange for labor.

the bride price collected by the bride's family does not benefit the woman herself, but flows back to the hands of another "father". the money just keeps circulating in the hands of men. if there are brothers or sisters, they will be arranged to marry them, and if there are no brothers or sisters, the money will be given to the father to build a house to save face.

data shows that in 2021, the average bride price in my country's provinces and cities was about 130,000 yuan. among them, jiangxi city had the highest bride price in china, reaching 380,000 yuan. fujian and zhejiang ranked second and third, reaching 300,000 and 250,000 yuan respectively.

why jiangxi?

a blogger on bilibili edited a video titled "i wanted to dispel rumors about jiangxi, but after seeing the real data, i was silent."

male to female ratio: 250.3%, the data speaks for itself.

some people covered their eyes and turned inward, unwilling to admit that they had been vested interests since birth, and never thought about how they survived and enjoyed the life of a prince. instead, they began to complain about not being assigned a wife.

the reality of marriage and love problems has led to more and more discussions about bride prices. everyone has their own opinions, and the opinions can be mainly divided into three types: the first is the complaints of men and their parents about the high price of bride prices. they believe that the bride price now is no longer a "gift" but a huge price and burden that must be borne when getting married.

the second is what most women believe, that a dowry is necessary for marriage. on the one hand, this is a recognition and respect for the woman, and on the other hand, these properties are also compensation and protection for the woman's family care and childbearing process.

the third group of people has a more critical view. most of them have a sense of gender equality and believe that dowry should not be asked because the dowry reflects a buying and selling relationship and converts the value of women into money, which is the objectification of women and the alienation of marriage.

the bride price involves many complex social issues such as social status quo, cultural inheritance, and gender concepts.

but the bride price should not be the perfect reason for domestic men to fail to find a partner.

it's the 21st century, and many men still seem to treat women as objects to satisfy their desire for marriage and reproduction, to be obtained and plundered. if prices are high in china, they go abroad to see if there are any free ones. that's why they can harass foreign women without any shame.

first of all, they treat women as objects, so they should understand that things are valuable because they are rare. why are the betrothal gifts so high in some places? the trend is getting worse. because there are fewer women of marriageable age.

why are there so few women?

because many women's chances of survival were cut off decades ago.