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a betrothal gift of 240,000 yuan was paid on the first day of the blind date, but the girl actually had another lover... recently, a 26-year-old gansu guy chen jin (pseudonym) encountered a professional marriage scam while on a blind date at a marriage and dating company. not only did he fail to marry a wife with the 240,000 yuan betrothal gift money borrowed by his family, he still has not gotten 140,000 yuan back.

"after the blind date, the person in charge of the marriage and dating company said that the woman wanted a dowry of 240,000 yuan. in fact, their company took out 100,000 yuan and gave 140,000 yuan to the guarantor. the guarantor only gave the woman more than 50,000 yuan." chen jin said that afterwards, the guarantor zhu was investigated as a criminal case for suspected fraud, but the company refused to refund the 21,800 yuan service fee that chen jin had previously paid to the marriage and dating company.

chen jin signed a marriage introduction service agreement with the marriage and dating company, with a service fee of 21,800 yuan.

after chen jin complained to the consumer protection platform, the paper contacted the company involved, shandong xinyu marriage and love service co., ltd. the person in charge of the company, xu, responded that the woman's information was provided by a local matchmaker (guarantor) in yunnan, zhu, and the company was not aware of the woman's situation. "according to the contract, the service fee is not refundable, but we can refund 5,000 yuan out of human feelings, but he refused." chen jin believes: "i was deceived by their company's blind date, and they must bear the responsibility."

the bride price of 240,000 yuan was paid on the day of the blind date

chen jin, 26, is from zhangye, gansu, and usually works in liaocheng, shandong. in march 2024, chen jin saw the live broadcast room of shandong xinyu marriage and love service co., ltd. (hereinafter referred to as xinyu marriage and love company) on the kuaishou app. "my parents were always urging me to get married at that time. they had seen this company before, so they asked me to go and try it out."

part of the transfer records of chen jin’s payment of the betrothal gift.

after contacting online, on april 2, the staff of the other party asked chen jin to meet at an offline store for communication. "they said the blind date service fee is 21,800 yuan, and they can provide services until the introduction is successful. moreover, if the woman has any problems or needs to file a lawsuit later, they can also assist me in dealing with it." chen jin said that he had no blind date experience before, so he paid 21,800 yuan and signed a "marriage introduction service agreement."

the day after payment, the staff contacted chen jin and said that they had matched him with a woman and that they could go to the store to meet and communicate. "the woman was brought by a matchmaker named zhu. the company said that zhu was from their yunnan branch and was responsible for finding women of the right age in the mountains of yunnan and then bringing them to us to introduce them to each other. her personal information has been reviewed."

according to the identity information provided by the other party, the woman was born in december 2005 and was only 18 years old when she went on a blind date with chen jin.

"we chatted for a few sentences, and her attitude was not particularly good. the company staff kept urging us. after the chat, they asked us if we were satisfied. the woman said she was satisfied. then they advised me to 'get married first and then fall in love', saying that blind dates are like this, so i agreed." chen jin said that after both parties nodded, he was taken to a room alone by the company's head xu to discuss the bride price. "he said that the woman wanted a bride price of 290,000, but she is not yet old enough to get a marriage certificate, so he can give 240,000 first, and then give the remaining 50,000 after the certificate is obtained."

chen jin told the paper that he did not understand the rules of blind dating at the time and thought that it was the same procedure, so he transferred 90,000 yuan to xu on wechat. after xu's account was limited, xu provided another wechat qr code and transferred 50,000 yuan. "the remaining 100,000 yuan was withdrawn in cash from a local bank."

in addition, chen jin also paid 4,678 yuan for airfare and hotel expenses, "reimbursing the guarantor and the woman's air tickets, taxis, accommodation, meals, etc. from their hometown in yunnan to the company."

after paying 244,678 yuan, the two parties signed a letter of commitment, a guarantee agreement, a prenuptial agreement, a power of attorney, etc. the power of attorney stated the cost of the betrothal gift, but the amount of the betrothal gift was only 70,000 yuan. "at that time, i also asked why 240,000 yuan became 70,000 yuan. they said that the 70,000 yuan was held by the company to prevent the woman from running away. the remaining money would be given to the woman after one year of marriage. the woman had already been given the rest of the money, so it was not written in the power of attorney."

chen jin said that after the process was completed, he wanted to ask the woman whether she had received the betrothal gift, but the person in charge of the company privately told him, "don't talk to the woman about such sensitive topics (betrothal gift)."

the day after the blind date, chen jin bought a high-speed rail ticket for the woman to go back to his hometown in gansu, intending to take her home to meet his elders. but right after buying the ticket, the woman said she needed to go back to yunnan to burn paper for the qingming festival. "i wanted to go back with her and meet her parents first, but she said that the local custom is that you can't go to her home before you get married." chen jin said that after he informed the guarantor of this, the guarantor asked the woman to shoot a guarantee video, promising that she must return within 3-4 days.

"i went to lanzhou first to wait for her. on april 7, the woman came to lanzhou to meet me. she brought three female friends with her." chen jin said that after bringing the woman home, except for meeting her parents, she hid in the room with her friends and locked the door. the two sides could only communicate through wechat. "i originally wanted to report it to the marriage and dating agency when i got back, but something happened before i got back."

chen jin said that on april 10, the woman sent her a wechat message saying that she had lost her id card and needed to go back to her hometown to apply for a new one. chen jin sent her to the high-speed rail station that day. however, the next day, when chen jin was browsing the kuaishou app, he accidentally saw the woman's account and found that the account was not only bound to the lover's account, but also had very ambiguous comments with the lover's account. "looking at the time in the comment area, she said she went back to apply for an id card, but in fact she went back to celebrate the man's birthday."

professional marriage fraud was investigated by the police

after checking the woman's account, chen jin realized that she was not sincere in marrying him, and immediately reported the situation to the guarantor zhu. "he told me not to contact the woman first and not to alert her, and he would help me get the betrothal gift back."

chen jin said that he trusted zhu at first, but he had not received the betrothal gift for a long time. "i called the woman, and she said she had no idea that she was asked for a betrothal gift of 240,000 yuan. the guarantor only gave her 54,520 yuan, and she promised to pay it back to me within a week."

where did the betrothal gifts go? chen jin contacted zhu again, and zhu admitted that out of the 240,000 betrothal gifts, xinyu marriage and love company took 100,000 yuan, and they took 140,000 yuan (including more than 50,000 yuan for the woman). "i asked him to return the betrothal gifts to me, but he said he had spent it all." chen jin then contacted xinyu marriage and love company again, "they said they could only return the betrothal gifts if the guarantor returned them."

chen jin said that he wanted to call the police many times afterwards, but zhu said that he could match him with a new woman and he would not have to pay the bride price. in order to recover the loss of 140,000 yuan, on may 8, chen jin went with zhu to zhaotong city, yunnan province to wait for a blind date. the two parties also signed an iou of 140,000 yuan and a negotiation agreement. the agreement stated that if the marriage introduced again did not take place, zhu would compensate chen jin 140,000 yuan. if the introduction was successful, zhu would bear the bride price of the woman within 140,000 yuan.

"zhu said that the bride price in yunnan is very low. i thought at the time that even if i couldn't get the 140,000 yuan bride price back, it would be fine as long as i could marry a wife." chen jin said that during this period, in order to get the xinyu marriage company to return the 100,000 yuan bride price, he also filmed a fake video to prove that "the guarantor has returned 140,000 yuan of the bride price" and asked the company to return the remaining 100,000 yuan, but the company only returned 50,000 yuan, "and they returned the other 50,000 yuan only after i called the police."

afterwards, the guarantor zhu and chen jin signed a negotiation agreement for 140,000 yuan.

after waiting for more than ten days in yunnan, chen jin failed to find a matching woman, and zhu also disappeared. "he said he would take the girl to anhui for a blind date, and then he left." under chen jin's threat to call the police, zhu recommended a yunnan girl to chen jin on wechat.

however, after chatting with the woman, chen jin realized that he had fallen into a scam.

according to the chat records provided by chen jin, the woman said: zhu tricked young girls into going out on blind dates by claiming that he had a house, a car and savings, and that she could get the gift by just "keeping him hanging" in a relationship. "she said that zhu had long wanted to default on my 140,000 yuan, so she asked her to hold me back first, but she didn't want to, so she told me everything," chen jin said.

after learning about the situation, chen jin immediately reported the case to zhaoyang branch of zhaotong public security bureau on july 4, and the woman who disclosed the truth to him also went to the police station to record her statement. chen jin said that on july 15, zhu was arrested in hefei, anhui. the next day, chen jin received a notice of filing a case, stating that chen jin's case of fraud met the conditions for filing a criminal case, and the case had been filed for criminal investigation.

the case of chen jin being defrauded was investigated as a criminal case.

chen jin told the paper that he learned from the police that zhu was a professional marriage scammer. “he brainwashed the woman by saying that all men were rich men. after defrauding the woman of the betrothal gift, he pretended to be in love with the man and then went home with the man temporarily. after returning home, he found trouble to force the man to beat or scold her, because the blind date agreement stipulated that domestic violence was not allowed. if domestic violence occurred, the betrothal gift would not be refunded.” “but the woman had only been in our house for two days at the time, and she had not had time to put into practice the tricks he taught her.”

although the guarantor zhu was arrested, chen jin has not yet received the 140,000 yuan betrothal gift. previously, chen jin paid 21,800 yuan in marriage service fees to xinyu marriage and love company, but the company refused to refund it. "they said they could continue to introduce me to someone, but i haven't even gotten back the betrothal money i was cheated of, so how could i let them introduce me again?" chen jin said that xinyu marriage and love company only agreed to refund 5,000 yuan, which he did not accept.

the marriage agency said it was unaware of the matchmaker's situation

according to business information, the company involved, shandong xinyu marriage and love company service co., ltd., was established in may 2022 and is still in business. in response to the above situation, on september 2, a reporter from the paper called the person in charge of the company, xu.

xu introduced that the woman was brought by the matchmaker (guarantor) zhu, and the company did not know the woman's specific situation. "we are only responsible for ensuring that the man's information is true and valid. the woman's resources are provided by the local matchmaker. the woman for this blind date was brought directly from yunnan to shandong by zhu, and we don't know the woman's situation."

xu said that after the incident, the company had recovered 240,000 yuan in betrothal gifts for chen jin, and the subsequent financial dispute was a "business dispute" between chen jin and the guarantor zhu. "we returned 100,000 yuan, and zhu returned 140,000 yuan. chen jin had filmed a video before to prove that the 140,000 yuan had been received." xu said that zhu was engaged in a used car business in yunnan, and lured chen jin to yunnan on the pretext of doing used car business. he then used the pretext of investing in used cars to defraud chen jin of another 140,000 yuan after repaying the loan. "we were not aware of this, it was a private act."

did the company take a share of the 100,000 yuan betrothal gift? xu said: "the company did not take a single cent of the betrothal gift. the guarantor returned it to him through our company, so he thought our company took it." he said that the company was only responsible for introducing the target, and the betrothal gift was negotiated between the matchmaker and the man.

xu told the paper that after the incident, the company had continued to match chen jin with other candidates. according to the contract, the service fee of 21,800 yuan was “non-refundable,” so the company could only refund 5,000 yuan out of sympathy for chen jin's experience, but chen jin refused.

regarding the above-mentioned statement of the person in charge, chen jin said that the reason why he recorded the video that the guarantor had returned 140,000 yuan was because xinyu marriage and love company said that "we can only return the betrothal gift if the guarantor returns it." in order to get back the 100,000 yuan, he asked zhu to cooperate in recording the fake video. in fact, zhu has never returned the 140,000 yuan betrothal gift.

"we don't have any business dealings and the money hasn't been returned to me. how can i do business with him again?" chen jin said that after he got back 100,000 yuan from the company, zhu said that his portion of the 140,000 yuan had been spent and they could sign an agreement first. "the agreement also stated that because the blind date failed, they would continue to introduce potential partners to each other. the 140,000 yuan could be used as a betrothal gift. it also didn't mention any business, investment or the like."

chen jin said that the woman mentioned above was his first blind date at the company. after he was involved in a marriage fraud dispute, he never met other people at the company again. "i was cheated in a blind date at their company. the matchmaker and the woman were both provided by the company. even if they are not involved in a crime, they are definitely responsible for lax review. my request is for a full refund of service fees."

after the paper intervened, on september 5, chen jincheng was contacted by xinyu marriage and dating company, saying that they could refund 30% of the service fee, or 6,540 yuan, but he did not agree. "the more than 260,000 yuan was borrowed by my parents from relatives and friends. they said that a dowry was required to marry a wife. now that i haven't married a wife, and i can't pay the money back, we dare not even leave the house."