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during the long vacation, many parents who are traveling with their children must have conflicting feelings: on one hand, they are looking forward to traveling with their families; on the other hand, they are afraid that the "mythical beast" will cause trouble when they go out and "make havoc" in public places and be harassed by others. blame.

in a parenting forum, a parent's confession resonated with netizens: "when i take my children out, i always have an insoluble sense of 'original sin' in my mind. it seems that as long as we appear in any orderly situation, we will bring 'unforgivable sin' with us." valium' tag."

we can’t help but ask, what is the “sense of original sin” that some parents call? why does the topic of traveling with children always arouse heated discussions?

source: ic photo

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in the author's opinion, the so-called "original guilt" is mostly a self-deprecating expression of a few parents when they encounter trouble when traveling with their children. however, it is indeed a "human reality" that people often feel at a loss and have mixed emotions when going out with a "mythical beast".

feeling of anxiety.when you go out with your children, safety is the first priority. the fear of bumping into something is enough to make you panic. and once the "mythical beast" starts crying, the parents are very heartbroken. especially when trying to appease the child's emotions but to no avail, there is a feeling of "reasoning but not understanding, coaxing but not being able to coax". over time, some parents will feel anxious and helpless every time they take their children on a trip. "no matter how long in advance they prepare, they will still be 'physically and mentally exhausted' as soon as they go out."

feelings of guilt.most parents have concerns about traveling with their children. on the one hand, it is because it is difficult for children to be comfortable in a strange environment. especially when they are in a closed space like a high-speed rail car for a long time, it is difficult to "release their nature" on the other hand, i am also worried that the noise of the "mythical beast" will disturb the surroundings and affect other people. these can easily make parents traveling with their children feel guilty and guilty.

feeling of powerlessness.hearing the looping announcement of "if your child is crying, please go to the carriage connection" on the high-speed train, seeing your child making noises, seeing offended expressions or looking at other passengers strangely, being treated differently or even labeled because you are carrying your child... ...i believe many parents have had similar experiences. therefore, some people often feel powerless when traveling with their children. they are worried that they and their children will become "disruptors of order" and they are also worried about encountering invisible discrimination. however, they have no choice but to be cautious and nervous.

source of pictures shared by netizens about traveling with children: screenshots from social platforms

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some time ago, on a certain flight, two female passengers couldn't bear the crying of a young child, so they took the child away from their grandmother and put the child in the toilet to "establish rules." this matter has triggered heated discussions on the internet. there are supporters and opponents, each with their own reasons.

we will find that, relatively speaking, twenty or thirty years ago, parents did not seem to have so much anxiety and ideological baggage when it came to traveling with their children. in fact, while discussing whether traveling with children will produce a "sense of original sin", we should also think deeply about why the topic of traveling with children today easily causes friction and public opinion discussions.

the awakening of boundary awareness.different from traditional society, the division of labor in modern society is clearer, individual awareness has been further improved, people's lifestyles and social distance have undergone major changes, and many people have begun to pay attention to the establishment of a sense of boundaries and the maintenance of a sense of order. for example, in public spaces, they rarely disturb others, and at the same time hope to maintain a certain "safe distance" from others. therefore, when children who do not yet know what boundaries are, play or cry in spaces such as transportation, tourist attractions, etc., they may break other people's inner boundaries and social boundaries, and unhappiness and friction are inevitable.

the transmission of stress emotions.as the gears of life turn accelerating, the pressure of employment, marriage and childbirth, and life pressure are all making people overwhelmed. people need to constantly get into the "body" of the soul to heal themselves. for people, a trip may be a short break while immersed in the journey, or it may be a spiritual journey to dispel tiredness. it is important and rare. at this time, if you encounter naughty children and parents who are indifferent to their children, your good mood and thoughts may be destroyed, and the stress and anxiety that you usually have nowhere to relieve may be "poured" on this "lead". "on the fuse", resulting in emotional "top up" situations such as competing with children.

social media rendering.there are many topics related to "naughty children" on social platforms. questions like "how to win a fight with a naughty child's parents" and "a naughty child will also hit the iron plate one day" etc. often arouse a lot of discussion. when the two keywords "public places" and "naughty children" are combined, it will always trigger heated discussions and even controversy. one of the reasons is that a small number of self-media blindly treat traffic as a business, deliberately set topics for related topics, intercept conflicting plots, amplify conflicts and stir up emotions. as it fanned the flames, a small number of netizens began to equate "children" with "noisy children", and thus were involved in the discourse trap of "child misogyny", and became less tolerant of children when they went out.

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some people say, "a society's attitude towards children represents the vitality and future of the society. being friendly to children means being friendly to the future of the society." if we want to reduce parents' anxiety or guilt when traveling with their children, we need to think and plan. the question is how to create more child-friendly public spaces.

there is no “original sin” when traveling with children.there is no need to be "shameful" about traveling.childhood is originally a time for every child to release their instincts, perceive foreign objects, and explore the world. being naughty, willful, and not caring about other people's feelings are all normal symptoms, and they are also things that each of us has experienced before growing up. stage. "going out and exploring" is the only way for children to integrate into society and thrive. traveling with children is also a required course for every novice parent to become mature and understand their children better. as a parent, you should not be swayed by a few words in the public opinion field. preparing all the items your children need before going out, and providing necessary guidance and education when your children disturb others are all solutions to the problem. there is no need for "anxiety" and "shame" when traveling.

during the national day holiday, parents took their children to play in the jingshan flower sea scenic area in hangzhou. source: chao news client

instead of looking down and blaming your children, lean down and treat them kindly.the reason why children are children is that they have not yet undergone socialization and adultization, and lack the ability to control their emotions and judge right and wrong. in other words, some conventional rules and principles in the adult world are difficult for children to understand. instead, each child has his or her own "theater." when they cry, scolding and reprimanding may not be a good idea. entering the child's "theater", hearing and entering their world, and making the child feel valued and heard is the best way.

as a fellow traveler, i naturally feel uncomfortable when encountering "naughty children" acting and rolling around. after all, everyone hopes that their hard-won journey will not be disturbed. however, blindly venting personal emotions may be counterproductive and make the situation more embarrassing. instead of being tit-for-tat, it is better to be more tolerant. if you have experience and spare energy, you can also work together to "coax the baby" and turn the "little accidents" during the journey into "little warmth."

create unlimited fun for children in a limited space.faced with crying children, parents sometimes have no choice but to do so. after all, public places are not like home and cannot meet their children's needs immediately. at this time, it is necessary to further improve the services of public spaces. at present, there are already attempts in various places, such as adding "baby-walking cabins" on high-speed trains and opening child-friendly themed stations on subways. in addition, aircraft flights can also be equipped with small toys, snacks, etc. suitable for children of different ages to meet the needs of children as much as possible. the details show care. with these considerations, it may be possible to stop the "mythical beasts" from making a big fuss in time, so that both adults and children can feel comfortable in a limited space.

children are who we were when we were young, and every young child will eventually grow into a sensible adult. be more considerate to parents who are raising children, be more friendly to crying children, and people who are not in sync can move forward together.