over 80% of the young people surveyed believe it is necessary to maintain in-depth social interaction
2024-10-03
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china youth daily·china youth daily reporter wang zhiwei
nowadays, many young people lament that "making an appointment to have a meal when you have time" between friends seems to have become a "blank check". they are obviously in the same city, but meeting each other is a luxury, and they want to establish and maintain a close relationship. very difficult. recently, a survey of 1,333 young people conducted by the china youth daily social survey center and wenjuan.com showed that 71.4% of the young people surveyed felt that it was more difficult to maintain deep social relationships now. to maintain a relationship, treating each other sincerely, respecting each other, and having similar interests are the aspects that the young people interviewed value most.
71.4% of the young people surveyed feel that it is more difficult to maintain in-depth social relationships
after entering college, zhang hongyi, born in 2000, felt that some of his former friends were gradually "losing contact". "i had a lot of good friends in high school. we all went to school and played basketball together at that time, and we had a deep relationship. after i went to college, we were scattered all over the country. we rarely chatted online and only contacted each other when we returned to my hometown, so i thought it has become a little difficult to maintain the close relationship that we had before.”
li siqi, a post-1995 generation who now lives in beijing, admitted that she is relatively passive in interpersonal interactions. if a friend invites her out to eat or go shopping, she will be happy to participate, but if she is asked to organize social activities for everyone, she will be more resistant and worried that she will not be able to cope with complex social scenes. "i do feel that socializing is stressful and burdensome, so i have fewer friends. but once i regard the other person as a good friend, i will take the initiative to strengthen the connection with the other person."
"compared with when i was in school, there are definitely fewer friends who i can keep in touch with after work." wang haosen, a post-90s generation who works in hangzhou, believes that maintaining a deep relationship requires both parties to have common topics or similar circles. only in this way can we have the urge and need to connect, and it is a natural thing to do so without spending a lot of energy. but as life enters different stages, everyone's social needs will also change. "some of my good friends in college have gotten married and have children. the focus of their lives will shift to their families, and the frequency of contact will naturally decrease. moreover, i will consciously avoid disturbing each other too much and only get together occasionally."
the survey shows that 71.4% of the young people surveyed feel that it is more difficult to maintain in-depth social relationships now.
zhang xiaofang, a doctoral candidate at the school of marxism at nankai university, has conducted research on youth social phenomena. she believes that in-depth social interaction is a social relationship with acquaintances, and there are thresholds for the formation of this kind of social relationship, such as a common living space, frequent visits, care and companionship, etc. however, as society accelerates mobility, relatively stable communication environments disappear, and original social relationships become difficult to maintain. young people have to adjust their social needs and instead seek fluid and "lightweight" relationships. for example, the current "hitting up" social network. on the other hand, today's young people attach great importance to personality development. the close and heavy social relationships formed in the traditional acquaintance society are depressing and uncomfortable for some young people. therefore, they feel tired of maintaining acquaintance relationships and consciously stay away and avoid social interactions. "with the development of society, the relationship between people is also constantly changing. the shift from people's dependence on people to people's dependence on things is an important trend."
the young people interviewed believe that the most important thing in maintaining a social relationship is to treat each other sincerely
"i have a friend from high school who i still keep in touch with. although we are far apart and can't see each other a few times a year, we often share with each other the trivial things and troubles in life, and we regard each other as worthy friends who have been together for a lifetime." li siqi believes that whether you can maintain a deep relationship depends on the partner. if you have the same temperament, you will naturally be willing to spend time and effort to maintain the relationship and will not feel it is a burden. "there is no need to do it. to maintain relationships and communicate.”
zhang hongyi feels that it is necessary to maintain in-depth relationships. on the one hand, you can understand yourself more comprehensively, because when you get along with others, you will get other people’s evaluations and suggestions, so you can constantly correct your own problems and change yourself accordingly. on the other hand, you can also gain emotional strength from others. "people are always lonely when they are alone. if you have friends by your side, you will get a lot of comfort and support."
the survey shows that 81.6% of the young people surveyed believe that in-depth interpersonal relationships are necessary, and 29.5% of the young people surveyed believe that it is very necessary.
what does it mean to build deeply connected relationships? the survey shows that 63.8% of the young people surveyed believe that they can gain rich emotional experiences, 59.8% of the young people surveyed said that they can experience complex and diverse ways of communication, 46.0% of the young people surveyed believe that they will have a more comprehensive and profound understanding of society, 43.3 % of the young people surveyed feel that it can provide strong support for individuals, and 28.7% of the young people surveyed believe that it can improve communication and problem-solving abilities.
“everything is so fast in this era. online social platforms allow everyone to get to know different people more easily and quickly. however, because of this, it is difficult to judge what kind of person is on the other side of the screen, so it is difficult to have further contact with them. "intercourse." wang haosen believes that although the pace of society is very fast, it is important not to blindly pursue "fast food" or "lightweight" when interacting with people. it is important to have a few friends with whom you can interact deeply. "trust is the cornerstone of communication, and it needs to be established through the test of time. having a few trustworthy friends is a precious asset in life."
what is the most important thing in maintaining a social relationship? the survey shows that the young people surveyed value the most sincerity (56.4%), mutual respect (51.8%), and like-mindedness (51.7%). others include: a sense of boundaries (49.4%), effective communication (46.7%), equality of personality (44.6%), mutual help (39.2%), and mutual empathy (26.7%).
"social interactions are all meaningful, but the types and functions are different. for example, some are casual acquaintances, while others are friends worthy of deep friendship." zhang hongyi said that it is very important whether the other person's character is upright and whether his three views are correct. this is the basis for mutual interaction. "if you have common interests and hobbies, it will be easier to have in-depth communication and become close partners."
among the respondents surveyed, 45.2% were men and 54.8% were women; 16.6% were born after 00, 29.9% were born after 1995, 34.8% were born after 90, and 18.7% were born after 1985; 14.7% were unmarried and not in a relationship. 19.4% are unmarried but in a relationship, 64.4% are married, and 1.5% are divorced.
(at the request of the interviewees, zhang hongyi and li siqi are pseudonyms)
source: china youth daily
