what are the joys and sorrows of going to college? here's a poll of millions
2024-09-28
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"flowers will bloom again, and people will never be young again."
according to data from the 2019 world happiness report before the epidemic, chinese people aged 15-19 and 20-24 reported the highest self-reported happiness. since then, happiness has been declining, reaching rock bottom in middle age.
from the perspective of life tasks, many people also have the happiest time when they are in college. during these green years, college students are not yet rich materially, but they also have a lot - long-awaited dreams, carefree minds, young bodies, free time and space, and for the first time, they can be completely controlled by themselves. dominant life.
but in recent years, college students in media reports and social networks seem to be less happy than college students in the past. many people do not socialize, do not fall in love, lack the ability to take care of themselves, and are involved in internships as soon as they enter college, turning college into high school.
if this kind of university life is not satisfactory enough, what should a good university life look like? what are your highlight moments and unforgettable memories?
we analyzedhupu community’s “college life ratings” list contains users’ ratings of 1,000 things in college life.in this online community, male users make up the vast majority, and the list only represents a part of folk voices, but these real complaints, vents and memories are edited together, like a short drama recording the four years of ordinary college students’ lives. the content is short, and some of the plots are boring and some outrageous, but they are still relatable - who installed surveillance on my college life?
college student: i stay up late first, but is it right to stay up until eight in the morning?
there are many aspects to college life, but in the end it is just about 11 aspects including eating, drinking, having fun, and studying. campus/class affairs had the lowest average score of all, at 2.97. if it weren't for the minimum score of 2, i'm afraid there would be quite a few 0 points. everyone in the comments also complained that it was boring, meaningless, and a waste of time. "the instructor was talking on the stage, and we were playing in the audience. everyone was happy."
in addition to class meetings, what makes some students in schools and colleges even more vulnerable is thatit turns out that when you go to college, you have to read in the morning, study in the evening, and even do morning exercises.
although the school has good intentions, college students do not appreciate it. a paper published in 2020 investigated the morning reading classes of 470 college students at jiaying college in meizhou, guangdong. 57.45% of them played with their mobile phones during morning reading, and 46.81% used the morning reading place as a place to eat breakfast. there are also 44.68% of people who believe that early reading classes are just various activities for publicity. students who have morning classes are even more helpless. they either go to class directly after running without having time to eat breakfast, or they just punch in and slip away early.
not to mention college students, even the schools themselves have difficulty implementing the regulations. for example, guangdong university of technology has issued a document stipulating collective self-study in the morning and evening starting from the 2023 undergraduate students. however, on the school’s forum, some students said that they only went there for a week; some students said that they started to study hard, but by the beginning of the next semester, everyone tacitly stopped going; some people who had been there said that they were criticized by the counselor for skipping late night self-study in the freshman year. i was asked to write a self-reflection letter, but i still haven’t submitted it in the second year.
of course, there are many relaxing moments in college life.
some happiness comes from hard work and a bumper harvest after sowing, such as "coming to shore or finding a job after my senior year", "packing things after the exam", "winning a prize after the competition", "looking at song hao (bilibili's 'high mathematics god', shandong finance university associate professor)". some happiness is full of atmosphere and is extremely suitable for infp personality, such as "watching the sunset by the dormitory window", "watching movies quietly alone" and "listening to music with headphones".
although the average score of these small and beautiful "little blessings" above is more than 9 points, the number of people who participated in the rating did not exceed the average.for the vast majority of people on hupu, happiness in college life means sleeping soundly, having people sign in, and going home for the holidays.
how concrete is this kind of happiness? "no classes, no urine, no hunger, full battery, rain" "snowy day, afternoon, bed curtains" "have headphones and paper" "take nap from 11 o'clock to 20 o'clock"... some people even say that the dormitory is better than home i feel more secure and can fall asleep in one second in the dormitory.
among contemporary college students, who has not experienced the hardships of roommates and teachers?
but,the prerequisite for sleeping peacefully in the dormitory is not to be disturbed by roommates. "it will be very suffocating to hear the sound of roommates turning pages of books."
roommates are the people in college, besides friends and teachers, who have the greatest influence on the happiness of college life. most undergraduate teachers only control "life and death" at the end of the semester, while roommates are people who need to get along day and night.
the "2022 ideal roommate survey for college students" published by the paper found that dormitory relationships are most likely to drop to a freezing point in the first semester of sophomore year. in everyone's opinion, if you want to have a good relationship in the dormitory, you must first "tolerate each other" and secondly "no one has any weird behavior". the proportion of people who agree with it reaches 73.6% and 64.5% respectively.
but that day when roommates from all over the world got together, their weird behaviors and unmatched habits became the starting point of all kinds of conflicts.24,000 netizens jointly gave "conflicts with roommates" an extremely low score of 2.4.
“6 people smoke in a dormitory of 8 people”
"the toilet has steps, but my roommate had to stand under the steps to pee, and the urine was all over the floor."
"my roommate is an owl. he stays up at one or two o'clock every night and takes a bath and eats down there."
"i go to bed at noon and play douyin kuaishou. i go to bed in the afternoon and talk loudly on the phone with my girlfriend when i have no classes. i snore at night."
"can you believe that my roommate scolded everyone in the dormitory behind his back? he was either discriminating against this classmate or that classmate."
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the inadaptation of living habits has become unbearable for many people. there are also some people who steal things and use their roommates as emotional trash cans, causing their roommates to "explode" wherever they are placed.
and if you are lucky enough to meet a "magic roommate" who is compatible with you, you will not only gain a harmonious dormitory relationship, but you may also have companions to watch movies and play games with; a partner to have dinner and singing together; and chat gossip and the world together. 's best friend.
for university teachers, everyone’s gratitude far outweighs their resentment. however, it is not to thank the teacher for teaching seriously, but to thank the teacher for leaving get out of class early and for showing mercy at the end of the semester.
however, there are also teachers who cannot avoid being "badly evaluated". the lowest ratings are "students lecture and teachers listen", "students do ppt, teachers listen, students evaluate, teachers are still listening, and the teacher is the one who gets paid in the end." in the minds of some college students, if they don't like class, the teacher cannot escape responsibility. . someone on the internet summarized: 1. teachers read from ppt in class, and the content has not changed for several years; 2. like to let students talk about homework, and teachers only make a few comments in each class; 3. like to talk about previous glorious experiences; 4. in class without naming names, the final exam is open book and the scores are very high. if a course meets several of the above characteristics, it is most likely a "water course".
everyone else is here ( ), do i want it too?
four years is both a long time and a short time. many people will be boiled in warm water during comfortable and regular days. only when they reach the turning point of their junior or senior year do they suddenly wake up and realize that there is a huge gap between their classmates.
some college students finally passed cet-6 and cet-2 in english after several years of practice; some also passed cet-6 in one go and successfully passed the law exam, teaching qualification exam, etc.; most college students are still asking their parents for help. when it comes to living expenses, some people have already made the first small pot of gold in their lives by relying on scholarships, part-time jobs, etc.
there are also some things that although many people are doing, their attitudes and evaluations vary greatly.
based on the ratio of the number of people who rated 10 points and the number of people who rated 2 points for each scored item, we found thatthere are many people who support and do not support issues such as whether to fall in love, take postgraduate entrance examinations, join the student union, rent an apartment off campus, etc.
take the postgraduate entrance examination as an example. in 2023, only 35% of people across the country will be admitted (based on actual reference students). many postgraduate entrance examination candidates still regard postgraduate students as realizing their unfinished dreams in high school; some graduate students have more practical considerations and use the postgraduate entrance examination as a springboard to succeed. changing majors or careers; there are also postgraduate students who have regretted it - "i should have taken the public examination."
in addition to completely different evaluations of the same thing due to different experiences or results, sometimes you will find this phenomenon: i can do the same thing, but others cannot. for example, when it comes to studying, i can test my roommate, but my roommate cannot test me. another example is bringing food: my roommate brings me food, yyds, i bring food to my roommate, whining, crying for father and mother.
university is like your predecessor, only after you lose it do you know how to cherish it
there was once a "shanghai jiao tong university student survival handbook" written by shanghai jiao tong university graduates that circulated on the internet, which wrote: "looking at the undergraduate period, it will be the most free and lowest opportunity cost for you for a long time in the future. in four years, you can't 'grasp all and win all', but you should find your own unique path."
but, how should we go so that we won’t regret it easily? what pieces of the puzzle are missing from the college life that "social animals" miss?
the answer varies from person to person.some people's biggest regret is that they have been single for four years in college; some are upset that they did not have the experience of studying abroad; some feel that their college life is too boring; and some feel that they did not get the graduation ceremony and graduation photos they imagined, so they drew pictures for the university on the cloud period.
among the comments on hupu expressing regret and regret, the most mentioned things were sleeping in the dormitory, playing mobile phones, and playing games.
in addition, some people regret not starting skipping classes sooner. although the behavior of skipping classes should never be encouraged, except for the vast majority of people who skip classes due to laziness, blind obedience, etc.there are also a few people who choose to do things that they think are more meaningful. for example, a hupu netizen said that he often skipped classes to listen to lectures given by senior officials, "which i feel is the most useful thing to do in college."
sometimes, the things that make people regret doing something or doing it late are not necessarily just not studying hard, getting high grade points, getting postgraduate qualifications, etc. the tempering of society and the growth of age will let people know that the criteria for evaluating whether a college life is good or bad, satisfactory or unsatisfactory, can be diverse. even if you think about this question at different stages, you will have different answers.
the "shanghai jiao tong university student survival handbook" also puts forward some "cruel" realities: college students have brought their hard-working spirit and mechanical learning methods from high school to university, but they cannot see how inefficient they are; according to the school's plan if you study and rest regularly, you will have very little free time at your disposal; some people carefully study how to improve their grades by selecting courses and attending classes, but they are unaware of other more effective methods and the long-term value of grade points. ....
unfortunately, most people can only rely on intuition and limited experience at that time in college. when you look back when your mind is more mature, you will inevitably have some regrets and nostalgia.
however, the pressure on college students today may be even worse than in the past. after all, the total number of college graduates in the class of 2024 is expected to be 11.79 million, an increase of 210,000 from last year.how much freedom do young college students have to think about and practice the college life they want?
references
[1] the paper, data science | colleges and universities use algorithms to match freshmen with roommates. is it reliable? , https://www.thepaper.cn/newsdetail_forward_19694729
[2] zhang huiqing, zheng connie, chen yulin. research on the current situation and strategies of college early reading classes [j]. journal of harbin vocational and technical college, 2020, (04): 130-133.
the paper reporter zhang lingyuan wei yao chen liangxian
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