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author: wei chunliang

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this is the first time i cried while watching a talk show.

what i am talking about are the jokes about family told by echo ran rong in the latest two episodes of "talk show and his friends".

unfortunately, this joke only received 105 votes, the lowest of all, and echo was eliminated.

however, in my heart, it is the best of the whole show. it is also the most powerful joke i have seen this year. it is the talk show that yang li said can make flesh grow wildly and wounds heal.

when i watched this segment, i could imagine this outcome. echo's jokes were too depressing and heavy, and the audience was not mentally prepared to digest the real suffering.

actually, this can’t be blamed on the audience. in her elimination speech, echo herself cried and said,she is not very good at dealing with such topics.

how could it be handled well? those sufferings were accompanied by roaring blood and tears. it takes great courage to talk about them with a smile. how could it be handled with ease?

as one comment said:

this story is hard to make funny, but being seen is far more important than being funny.

there are three parts in echo's jokes that make me feel uneasy.

first, she said that their family is particularly suitable for beating children because they sell medicine. after being beaten for a long time, the children know how to find medicine to take:

small fighters take chinese medicine, medium fighters take western medicine, and large fighters take pesticides.

although she immediately laughed and said "just kidding, i'll take a nap", i know how many tears were hidden in such a joke. the final destination and relief for many rural women is a bottle of paraquat.

this joke is like a knife with blood on the blade.

the second reason was that the second sister had poor grades and a stubborn personality, so she was always beaten. at the age of 14, the second sister couldn't stand it anymore and wanted to run away from home. echo and her eldest sister were packing her luggage. the 12-year-old echo didn't know what to say, so she asked her second sister:

"can i have your jeans, please?"

i feel like echo's voice was a little choked up when she said this. this sentence is so accurate, the mountain girl's childhood was all spent on this pair of jeans that she could never get.

third, at the end of the performance, echo called on parents not to beat their children, saying that it would harm the child's body and mind, and that any pressure was not a reason to beat a child. then, she said a "but":

"but it's not that you can't have it at all. if you really have to have it, you can do it before the baby is born."

this sentence was too cruel, carrying a sense of self-destruction and revenge, and showing a complete lack of forgiveness.

yes, it is completely unforgiving and uncompromising. some netizens said:

what i like about her is that she does not hide her hatred towards her original family.

yes, she joked.if my parents had been more safety-conscious, there wouldn't be so many people.”，

she said,we have lived in the workplace since we were young, deceiving each other and scheming against each other, just to please the couple.”，

she said,others take a gap year to explore life, but my parents take a gap year to create life.”，

and in the previous talk show, when she said she was grateful to her parents for letting her leave the mountains, she said something provocative:thanks”，

every word is outrageous and every word is destructive.

some time ago, i read an author's article about an lingrong, saying:

“i have always felt that an lingrong is obsessed with being zhen huan's enemy because there is another kind of equality between enemies. classes that cannot be crossed through love can be crossed through hatred.”

i also think that echo's hatred and unforgiveness for domestic violence and son preference in her original family is also a kind of transcendence.the hurt that love and care cannot overcome can be overcome through hatred.

hatred and unforgiveness are her way of being worthy of herself.

echo telling her painful story doesn't mean the pain will disappear, but it may make her feel less scared.

in harry potter, the shapeshifter boggart, who lives in dark and narrow places, will become the thing you fear most. but you shout a spell at him.funny funny”, turn it into something funny, and then you can defeat it with laughter.

echo is undoubtedly trying to master this magic.

it’s a pity that facing the pain doesn’t make real life better. my favorite part of echo’s joke is the not-so-clever design:

"as of this year, my second sister has been in shenzhen for 14 years. a girl who started from scratch, just a few days ago, she bought two sets of egg-filled pancakes in luohu district, shenzhen with full payment."

just as echo said, there are not so many stories with heroines as the main characters.

in echo's weibo, she said that everyone expects narratives about small people achieving great success, and even she herself expects her second sister, who has been away for many years, to return home in glory and wealth, but in fact this is just an extremely mediocre story.

young, low education, entered society too early, no family support...echo said it was hard for her to imagine what kind of life her second sister had experienced all these years away from home, but she still saved up 500,000 yuan and bought a car.

it's just that my second sister got seriously ill recently and has been released from the icu. she is now returning to her normal life and has found a job, but it's very tiring. fortunately, echo and my second sister also live together, so the two of them have someone to rely on.

in her elimination speech, echo burst into tears and said that life was too difficult and she wanted to help her sisters but didn't know how.

every time i see this, i hold back my tears. i know i shouldn't pity them, they don't want pity. as echo said on weibo:the most important thing is to be seen - even if you are stuck in the quagmire of life, you must not give up the belief in saving yourself.

yes, it is important to be seen. don't say that domestic violence and male chauvinism do not exist. just because you have not experienced it does not mean it does not exist.

having written this, i want to solemnly declare that i, the author of this article, wei chunliang, am a man. i am not like some self-righteous people in the comment section of "<ordinary song>, don't be too malicious towards women", saying, "she is indeed a little fairy”。

although i am a man, this does not prevent me from empathizing with echo, because i am proof of domestic violence and gender discrimination.

there are four brothers and sisters in my family, my eldest sister, my second sister, my brother and i. my brother is named "shengli" because my parents wanted a son and finally "succeeded" after giving birth to my brother. and my nickname is "junli" after my brother.my nickname is proof of the preference for boys over girls.

maybe it’s because we were poor, i never felt that my parents favored my brother and me. but every time i thought about it, i would remind myself,i didn't feel it, maybe it's just because i am a vested interest in favoring boys over girls, and i shouldn't take it for granted.

since i was a child, i grew up under my father's beatings. when my father was drunk and angry, he would hit me with a shovel and my mother with a brick. even when he got cancer in his later years, he still ignored my mother.

when i saw echo's talk show, i thought of my mother's miserable life. my mother once told me that if it weren't for my brothers and sisters, my fourth brother, she would have died a long time ago. but she didn't. she endured and suffered all her life.

so, i can't understand why so many men can't understand women and empathize with women. whenever they say something for women, they are "fighting" and "little fairy". understanding women and empathizing with women, what exactly will offend you, and what will you lose? will you lose your great masculinity?

i don't understand the male and female rights, but i know that in a patriarchal society, women are not only a gender, but also a situation. having more understanding and empathy for women is not only a quality that women should have, but should be the basic quality that every civilized person should have.

i saw a sentence.nostalgia is an odyssey for men, and escape is an epic engraved in women's bodies.in fact, if we had more understanding and empathy, and less malice, they wouldn't have to be so tragic.

echo thanked niao niao for her encouragement and advice on weibo. she said,i think the power of the women's community of shared destiny is more fully demonstrated at this moment.”。

i want to shamelessly tell countless echos that you are not the only ones who belong to the community with a shared future for women.although i can't completely empathize with you, some men are willing to stand with you.

during the elimination speech session, echo asked the answer book and asked two questions:

"will my second sister be happy and joyful?"

“can i be who i want to be when i’m 35?”

as fate would have it, the answers to both questions are:

"it will be all right."

since these two unrealistic wishes can come true, i will give you a real blessing. i hope echo and her sisters make a lot of money.