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author | i am wang erduo

source | mr. wang erduo

01

sometimes, the affection that is given to the wrong person is worthless.

it’s a pity that xiao wang from hangzhou did not realize this truth.

he and his girlfriend mao met and fell in love in college, dated for four years, and decided to get married.

before the marriage, the mao family asked xiao wang to marry into the family.

xiao wang's mother said that the girl's family has two daughters and their local conditions in xiaoshan, hangzhou are average, but due to traditional ideas, the man must marry into the family if they want to get married.

xiao wang is the only child in the family. his parents disagree a lot, but they cannot persuade him.

xiao wang, who was deeply in love, threatened his elderly family member with jumping off the building, and finally got what he wanted.

the two got married in january this year.

although he was a son-in-law, xiao wang, as a bank business manager, earned much more than mao, who was a nurse.

moreover, he is young, handsome and a decent man. he usually bears all the expenses of the family and pushes mao's grandmother for a walk when he comes home from get off work.

to outsiders, the couple seems to have a good relationship.

unfortunately, this happiness only lasted for half a year.

xiao wang gave his wife an apple phone. when he was helping her migrate data that night, he discovered a clue.

the old mobile phone contained indecent videos and photos of mao and liu, a hospital leader from the same unit, as well as explicit chat records.

mao used two wechat accounts and was in a passionate relationship with his boss, and had been cheating on him for two or three months.

less than a hundred days after getting married, his wife slept in her boss's bed, and xiao wang was devastated.

he couldn't believe what he saw and thought mao had definitely not done it voluntarily, so the two men confronted each other face to face.

mao did not admit it at first, but later lied and said that he was forced into having sex in the hospital. he also used the excuse that he did not want to involve his work and wanted to settle the matter privately.

xiao wang felt sorry for his wife because she was a "victim" and wanted to "seek justice" for her.

he drove straight to the hospital, made a scene in the department, demanded that the hospital deal seriously with liu, and called the police to report that the doctor raped the nurse.

after investigation by the police, it turned out that both parties were together voluntarily.

mao really cheated on him.

the truth was like a bolt from the blue, and xiao wang returned home in despair.

mao wanted to save the marriage, so the two of them went to dongji island in zhoushan, where they had many good memories.

returning to the place of love, xiao wang was distraught and absent-minded.

early morning surveillance showed that he left the hotel alone and wandered on the beach, showing signs of suicidal tendencies.

after mao found out, he tried to stop them. the two quarreled and fought on the beach and then returned to the hotel.

when he found out that mao was traveling with him but was still in contact with liu and they were entangled, he completely collapsed.

the two had an argument in the hotel, and then xiao wang kicked mao out of the room.

it was not until the waiter entered the room to clean that they found xiao wang hanging himself with the power cord of the hair dryer in the closet.

02

the police investigated and found that xiao wang had left two suicide notes on his mobile phone.

one letter was sent to my parents, which roughly said:

"mom and dad, i'm sorry, i just can't take it anymore. i love her so much, and she treated me like this, lied to me, and betrayed our marriage. i'm devastated and hopeless. i just can't take it anymore. i'll be your child in my next life..."

one letter was written to mao:

"even if i become a ghost, i will always protect you and won't let you get hurt. i love you as i did before, and we will be husband and wife in the next life."

a 25-year-old young man, determined to go for love.

but how big of an impact will it have on your significant other?

xiao wang left a suicide note at 2:18 a.m. mao saw it at 8:51 a.m. and replied "wait for me". the forensic doctor calculated that xiao wang died at 9 a.m.

during this period, mao was sitting in the hotel lobby. she knew that xiao wang wanted to commit suicide, but she did not knock on the door, call the police, or seek help from anyone.

maybe at the last moment, xiao wang still had a glimmer of hope, hoping that his lover would knock on the door, sincerely repent, and reconcile.

unfortunately, all he got was a sentimental and insincere essay.

even after the tragedy, mao took xiao wang's mobile phone from her mother-in-law on the pretext of using xiao wang's alipay and deleted some chat records and photos, especially the screenshots of the conversation between xiao wang and her cheating partner.

she also lied to aunt wang and said she was two months pregnant. i don't know what her motive was.

xiao wang's body was sent back to xiaoshan funeral home from zhoushan funeral home. at that time, the two families agreed to go to the woman's home to perform rituals the next day, but they changed their minds the next day and refused to send the body back home.

during the wake that night, mao did not show up, citing the excuse that he felt dizzy and needed to be hospitalized.

xiao wang's mother cried on weibo that xiao wang's body had been kept in the funeral home for more than a month, but the mao family had been avoiding him and had not even a single apology.

the son's household registration was registered with the mao family, and the woman was required to come forward to handle the funeral arrangements, but the mao family had been hiding. the government took the lead in organizing negotiations between the two families, and the mao family was absent.

the old couple had no choice but to go to the hospital where mao worked to seek help, only to find out that mao and the person he had an affair with had both resigned after the incident and could not be found.

they didn't want to torture their son anymore, so they decided to cremate him and let him rest in peace.

but when they brought the ashes back to their son's home, they found that the lock of the large iron gate of the mao family's wall had been poured with cement, and a 600-pound earthen stove had been placed inside to prop it up, and all the other door locks had been replaced.

the mao family elders that xiao wang respected during his lifetime said, "just pretend we don't know them."

no matter how deep the vows we made, it hurts so much to be slapped in the face now.

you create a huge wave, but to the other party it is just a tiny ripple caused by a stone thrown into the river.

there's not even any impact.

you are ready to die bravely, and don't bother others who are in pairs.

it just chills the hearts of those who truly love you.

03

as you experience more, you will realize that there is another interpretation of the saying “you can't hang yourself on a tree.”

let me start with a story told by my writer friend li xiaoyi.

she has a friend who has been managing a women's prison for 20 years.

li xiaoyi was curious: "why do women usually commit crimes?"

my friend said, "nine times out of ten it has to do with feelings, or to put it simply, it has to do with men."

li xiaoyi asked again: "then the age of female criminals should be relatively young, right? young people have weak self-control and are more likely to lose their minds and do stupid things."

my friend replied: “not really, most of them are between 35 and 45 years old.

when people are young, they often have many options for dealing with the depression caused by emotional problems, and rarely push themselves to a dead end.

but it is different in middle age. after years of emotional repression, life has only this one fulcrum. as a result, when people reach middle age, even the only fulcrum, emotion, is gone. how can they not lose their mind and fight to the death?

but it also ruined my future life.”

the friend also concluded:

“this is not only the reason why women commit crimes, but also the reason why many women commit suicide.

there are too many women around us who have only this one fulcrum in their lives.

some people regard love as everything, some people regard children as everything, and some people regard work as the only thing...

so once their love fails, something happens to their children, or they lose their jobs, they are particularly prone to committing suicide.”

not only women, men as well.

xiao wang is, and so is the fat cat from not long ago.

a 21-year-old gaming genius went to chongqing alone for his girlfriend.

i only have a lover, no friends, and i lock myself in a small room and play games.

spend the money you earn on your girlfriend.

his life, career, and emotions all depend on one person.

this is the only fulcrum in his life.

once this fulcrum falls, the world will begin to collapse.

there is also a famous saying in psychology that the root cause of many human tragedies is placing too much expectation on a relationship.

this is what the saying goes, you can't hang yourself on a tree.

being obsessed with only one person, taking only one path, and relying only on a certain relationship for spiritual support is destined to be a tragedy.

it’s still what yu xiuhua said, the meaning of everyone’s life is greater than the meaning brought by love.

love between men and women should not be the focus of life.

people who truly understand life know that life is not a single-choice question, but a multiple-choice question.

a bench has four legs. even if one leg is broken, at least it can still stand.

an umbrella with only one backbone, if it's broken, it's broken.

people left, the umbrella broke, life was scattered all over the ground and could no longer be held up.

we often talk about how people need to have jobs, have hobbies, do things that seem useless, find their self-worth, socialize, and establish connections with more people. this is the truth.

we pursue these things because they are like tiny threads that pull you in life, and when they are intertwined together, they become a tight net.

they can catch you when you are desperate.

you escape into these things and they become a refuge for life.

it makes you feel that there are still parts of this world worth cherishing.

04

another point is that no one can escape unscathed from desire.

now that xiao wang is gone, there will definitely be no good outcome for mao and liu.

he lost his job, his home address was dug out, his relatives and friends were made public, and his identity information was exposed across the entire internet. everyone on the streets and even the entire city knew about the scandal. his future was destined to be difficult.

you may be happy for a moment, but if you end up killing someone, retribution is waiting for you.

this also serves as a reminder to those who are ready to make a move:

extramarital affairs cannot be made public, but they can ruin your life.

the road is long, so be sure to keep the precepts.

people should not change their trajectory for the sake of passengers. the only thing to grasp is to appreciate the scenery along the way and become a better self.