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everyone has seen the “deluxe circle of friends” more or less. for example, someone is exhausted from climbing a mountain, but writes “the mountain cannot see me, so i will see the mountain”; someone uses both hands and feet to cook a table of dishes, but declares “i love life, not the meaning of life”…

some people say that the "hardcover" circle of friends is too "split". it is true that the filter is too thick and the distortion is inevitable that the viewing experience is not good, but there is no need to make a big deal about it.there is a "dramatization theory" in psychology that holds that society is a stage and people will consciously manage their image in order to leave a certain impression on others. social media is just such a vehicle for self-expression.

intentionally managing one's image in social settings is not something that is new today. looking back, the ancients also knew this well. the "song of the cursive script of master huaisu" by the tang dynasty poet dou ji recorded the situation of the tang dynasty calligrapher huaisu "brushing moments" on the wall - there are dozens of white-walled corridors, and when he is in a good mood, he is a little open-minded. the old and the young gather, the wise and the noble come, and he is still half drunk with his pillow on koji. suddenly he screams three or five times, and thousands of words are written all over the wall... you can see that there are many "dramas" in the clockwork circle of great calligraphers, and for thousands of years, there are endless praises for his "crazy writing".

to put it bluntly,life is different from the circle of friends. the "me in front of the stage" is not a complete projection of the "real me".many times, the person who posted the photo knows the truth, and the person who liked the photo knows it tacitly. as long as you enjoy yourself, based on the authenticity of life, adding some filters to edit the photos and presenting your ideal self, there is nothing wrong with that.

so, what is so tiring about the "hardcover" circle of friends? traffic is it. the "circle of friends" is expanding day by day. the "living room" that focuses on socializing with acquaintances has evolved into a "vanity fair" and a "supermarket" without knowing when. internet celebrities of all kinds have made their debuts, and small and large micro-businesses are shouting, establishing their personalities, attracting fans, and busy selling goods. it is so lively. good-looking and delicious food, travel that can be taken at any time, "a4 waist" that can be held in one hand, limited collection of big-name bags... the "good life" that is constantly being released stimulates the vanity and comparison consciousness deep in the hearts of some people, and the bubble of "fake refinement" spreads.when sharing is not a true expression of emotion, when business no longer comes from the heart, when people unconsciously "compete" to see who has a better life, who has a more outstanding experience, and who has more likes, anxiety will surge.

life is not elsewhere, it is most beautiful here. after all, the original intention of the circle of friends is to record and share, connect and interact. diving into the routine of "hardcover" is undoubtedly missing the point, and being "circled" by the circle of friends. nowadays, the wave of digitalization is sweeping in. expressing oneself online is an attitude, a need, and an ability. when "surfing", how to maintain your ease, accept yourself or show off, different mentality will lead to different results.

"the wind and fog rise in the distant mountains, and no one knows the way you came." in fact, whether it is the hardcover circle or the roughcover circle, the virtual persona is ultimately just "virtual". at any time, sincere expression is always the most touching.

source: beijing daily client

author: yu xin

process editor: u071