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Q: Who is the most visible variety show star this year?

Answer: Xiang Zuo is number one, no one dares to claim to be second!

Since the beginning of the year, he has participated in "Infinite Beyond Class II" and "Brothers Who Overcome Troubles Season 4" successively, and recently became a guest performer in "A Pleasant Night".

Not only that, when his wife, Christine Kuo, appeared on "Sisters Who Make Waves", as a family member, he cheered for her and protected her, which can be regarded as indirect participation.

To sum up, from performance to singing and dancing to comedy, from Mango, Youku to Tencent, the types are rich and the project levels are high. Which colleague would not sigh at how great the resources are!

However, he just doesn't live up to expectations...

After finally regaining some reputation with his agile skills and willingness to learn in "Infinite Surpassing Class", he failed to stop while he was ahead and kept changing battlefields, and finally became the protagonist of the first round of beaf in the fourth season of "Brothers Who Overcome Troubles".

This beaf is not just a quarrel or a joke, but directly involves keywords such as "fight" and "withdrawal", and the smell of fireworks is so strong that it is choking.

Come, let's sort it out, this is what happened:

On the first public stage, the brothers were divided into eight tribes. There were four members in the tribe where Xiang Zuo was, including Liang Long, Ya and Kurosawa Ryohei.

Liang Long is the Liang Long from Second Hand Rose, the colorful uncle who likes to jump rope on the stage; the last two are international friends, Kurosawa Ryohei is Lin Chi-ling’s husband, and Masaya is from Japan, a former guitarist of a visual rock band.

(Remember their roar, it plays a key role in promoting the plot later.)

From this configuration, we can see that the three brothers have rich stage experience. In comparison, Xiang Zuo, as the youngest, has the weakest professional ability.

If you are weak, just learn. Anyway, the purpose of this program is to "torture" you, to train you to death, to see how you advance from clumsy to proficient. If everyone is proficient and brilliant from the beginning, there will be no growth arc, and it will be meaningless.

At first, Xiang Zuo also practiced seriously under the guidance of Kurosawa Ryohei, but his performance was not good during the rehearsal. During the subsequent review, the director pointed out in public that he was obviously lagging behind.

As an observer, I didn't see that the director was targeting anyone. He just pointed out the problem objectively and urged everyone to solve it. The overall cooperation was not high, and it was not just his problem.

After the director finished speaking, the other brothers understood with serious expressions, and immediately held a small meeting to adjust their strategy and redesign everyone's appearance to maximize their strengths and avoid their weaknesses.

And at this critical moment when everyone was working together to solve the problem, Xiang Zuo escaped with the excuse that someone was looking for him temporarily.

Then, a polite farewell message came: "It's an honor to work with you all, but I don't want to hold you back. Maybe you will be better off without me."

Seeing this, the rock musician Ya couldn't remain calm. He called her and said seriously, "You are being ungrateful to the time Kurosawa spent on you and the time we spent together. Don't think you are so cool. Come back."

Let me interrupt with a digression; at that moment, "determination without hatred" was personified, and my girlish heart, which had been silent for a long time, was deeply moved - what is handsome and responsible, what is cool from the inside out, and what is the charm of a mature man, that is, that is elegance!

(Ahem, let me collect myself first)

Back to the story, the three middle-aged guys caught up with the younger brother Xiang Zuo who was about to leave. It is said that their way of persuading people is also quite unique:

Ya directly grabbed Xiang Zuo's collar, and the other two stood in the middle to mediate. The four of them expressed themselves and reached a final settlement in the midst of pulling, tugging, and pushing.

Xiang Zuo: Sorry, brother.

Miyabi: Kurosawa spent fifteen hours training with you, why did you leave?

Xiang Zuo: I just want you to perform better, I love you very much.

Ya: We love you too.

Xiang Zuo: I just don’t want to…

Ya: I know, this is hard for you too. Please stay and let's figure this out together, okay? Don't think we don't want to be with you.

Xiang Zuo: I will pull you down.

Kurosawa Ryohei: No, we are professionals, and so are you. You are an artist, and we will use your shining points to perform.

Liang Long: We have many solutions. Don’t worry. If you leave, we will be the real losers.

Xiang Zuo: Okay, I’m sorry everyone.

The above is the entire process of the three older brothers trying their best to persuade the younger brother to return to the team and play together.

Without comparison, there is no judgment. The maturity, sophistication and calmness of the other three further highlight Xiang Zuo's hesitation, retreat and lack of confidence.

In fact, people are not always so strong sometimes, but he is in his forties after all, he is already a father and has seen the world. Why is he so strong on the outside but weak on the inside?

Although this scene is too dramatic, I believe that those who have watched Xiang Zuo's other variety show performances will not be too surprised by his series of actions. The specific scenes may change, but his core remains the same.

The underlying logic behind Xiang Zuo's decision to escape from the battlefield is this - since I am the one who is obviously inferior, I might as well not embarrass myself.

He seems to have high self-demands and is a perfectionist, but in fact he has a low level of self-acceptance. Showing his imperfections to others would make him feel extremely ashamed, so he simply turns around and leaves, preserving his fragile self-esteem in the name of considering the interests of the group.

But in fact, is there anyone who is very skilled from the beginning?

No matter how powerful a stage champion is, he all started out as a complete novice. He can only accept himself when he is doing well, but cannot accept himself when he is clumsy. This is tantamount to self-division and is too cruel.

It can be inferred that his famous parents must have been very strict with him, always setting the standards high, which always made him feel that "I haven't done enough". Frustration followed him everywhere, and self-criticism became a habit.

In other words, the excellence of his parents itself would put some kind of pressure on him, "as if no matter what I do, I am not worthy of being the son of Xiang Huaqiang and Xiang Tai, and it would be a disgrace to me anyway."

In short, low self-esteem is a self-portrait that runs deep in his bones, as he said in "Infinite Transcendence Class":"I am a useless person."

Under the control of this painting, he became a slave to "perfectionism", which includes but is not limited to:

For example, this time, if you can't get a high score, just leave;

He had practiced in seclusion for several years and was a true believer in "secretly surprising everyone". He had to make a perfect appearance, but he must not let anyone see him crawling clumsily.

Relying on the fact that I know kung fu, I always compare myself to Jet Li, Jackie Chan and Donnie Yen, as if my imaginary enemy's level is high enough, my mediocrity will become excusable.

Beneath perfectionism lies the endless tug-of-war between the "good me" and the "bad me", as well as the self-deception of the "good me" coaxing the "bad me".

In addition, he is also an out-and-out "blame-shifting hero", and his relevant remarks are as follows:

"For so many years, Hong Kong directors and producers have not given me the space to act."(No, if you don’t have space, who else can have space? Those unknown people who are trying their best to get a chance?)

"I also want to try other roles, but the label that others give me is just that of an action star."(Oh, otherwise, you have been working hard on martial arts, how do others discover your literary acting skills? Is it telepathy?)

As for the "Pigeon" show, after the show was aired, he directly posted a blog to announce that he had withdrawn from the competition. As for the reason, I highlighted a few key points from his immature and messy words:

“I really want to break through, but this stage doesn’t give me the time to do so.”

"The director's harsh words further strengthened my determination to leave."

“When he wouldn’t even let me hold the microphone, I didn’t know how to break through myself.”(I don’t know who “he” refers to here.)

Many netizens commented: I envy this mental state, he can blame others for not wasting time and energy.

You better be joking! I always look like an innocent victim who is being hindered by the whole world. What is there to envy? This is both narcissistic and weak.

Narcissism lies in the fact that no one would target you every day for no reason! The world does not revolve around you, young master!

The weakness lies in that he first assumes that he is incapable, and then in order to make his claim true, he uses all the relevant people and events as ironclad evidence.

It's like a giant baby who feels bad about himself, expressing his loyalty to his parents all the time: You say I can't do it, so I can't do it. Look, I really can't do it. They all hurt me, they don't like me, this world doesn't welcome me at all, and I can only barely survive under your protection.

In fact, I felt sorry to see him announce his withdrawal from the competition. I still hope that he can stay on the stage of "Pi Ge", because when the other brothers persuaded him to return to the team, I vaguely felt that his inherent framework was loosening.

In other words, he and his parents had already formed a relationship pattern for many years. The moment he decided to follow his brothers back to the team, a gap appeared, and he had other possibilities for positioning himself and relationships.

Let me first talk about his inherent framework. My guess is this: the mother regards her son as a private property andTwo common reasonsMake them stay by your side willingly to satisfy your desire for control and sense of value.

1. You are terrible. You cannot meet my requirements. You cannot do anything well.

2. It’s very dangerous outside. People’s hearts are unpredictable and there are many demons and monsters. If you leave my protection, you will surely die.

I'm not exaggerating. In fact, many parent-child relationships are like this in reality, especially in single-parent families. Many mothers lack a sense of security, so they always have to hold on to their children tightly and are unable to achieve mental separation.

We don't know why Xiang Tai likes to control her son, but it is definitely a fact that she is strict. The most typical example is that the wife must be "strictly selected by the mother". In "Infinite Beyond Class", Ning Jing also talked about such an old story:

When Xiang Zuo was twenty-four or twenty-five years old, she went to visit the Xiang family and saw with her own eyes Xiang Tai scolding her son. The reason was simply that Xiang Zuo wanted to go out to meet friends at around nine o'clock in the evening, but Xiang Tai did not allow him.

From this, we can see how overbearing and powerful Xiang Tai's interference in her son's life is. She is blocking his external connections and expansion, and also hindering his growth.

Of course, generally speaking, mothers are reluctant to push their children out, and this is exactly where the father's role needs to play a role -

"Let go, honey. You can't bear it, but I can. Look, I'm going to pull him out of your arms, go cycling, go surfing, and climb mountains. I'm going to meet challenges, and feel the beauty of the world and my own power between danger and safety."

Children who grow up in families with a sound fatherly role are usually more confident and better at making friends. To put it bluntly, they are more successful in society and can more skillfully find their place in any group.

Mr. Xiang, perhaps because he was too busy, or perhaps because he was used to viewing his wife's obedience as a sign of love, gave up power and decided not to be an "intervener", thus becoming the "disappearing dad".

This is pure speculation, but judging from the show, Xiang Zuo is definitely not the kind of kid who can easily get along well with people and be relaxed and self-satisfied. Self-denial and silent disappearance may be his usual attitude when getting along with friends.

But this time, others would not allow Pi Ge to repeat his old tricks.

When he was about to escape, his brothers pulled him back with great determination. Although mixed with accusations and anger, they released more unfamiliar and heart-piercing messages from Xiang Zuo's past life:

"You are great", "We need you", "Don't worry, we will find a solution together", "Our team will fail if you are not here"...

No criticism, only encouragement; no pushing away, only tolerance.

It's like a child who is locked up at home by his mother. He looks at his friends from afar through the glass window. He thinks they will laugh at him, despise him, and leave him, but they keep waiting outside, from dawn to dusk. When they can't wait any longer, they simply break the glass of their house with stones and pull him out.

For any child who is used to being controlled, this kind of firm waiting and brave pulling is a great warmth, and it is also a severe break from the curse of growth.

There was someone standing steadily outside the window, and the demons and monsters that my mother had mentioned before gradually disappeared, replaced by the sense of belonging of friendship and the determination to overcome all obstacles and embrace the wilderness.

So Xiang Zuo's emotion during the post-interview should be genuine: "They advised me so much, I had no choice, very few people treat me like this, this friendship is very heavy."

Yes, it was heavy, but he escaped in the end.

I often say that we should not blame the original family, we can just attribute it, but I have to say that the attraction of the original family is strong, and it is difficult to escape the shackles of the original family.

What's more, Xiang Zuo's parents are really powerful, and power reversal is difficult to achieve. The strong financial and social influence of the previous generation has to some extent weakened the need for him to work hard to grow.

Wang Xiaofei next door is facing the same problem. He is closely connected with his mother in economic and career development, so how can he separate from her spiritually?

In comparison, children from ordinary families are actually luckier.

If your parents are not successful or wealthy enough, it will objectively lead to their losing power sooner rather than later. Even if they try to control you by intimidation or temptation, you will sneer at them because their power is not strong enough.(You want to urge me to get married by introducing a woman like this? If you have the guts, find Guo Biting.), and then you have to learn to swim by yourself. You may drown, but at least you have a half chance of survival.

Many times, being profitable and having to rely on something will only make the problem persist, and when you are at your wit's end, it will trigger the switch to break the old and establish the new.

So, does the tragedy of Xiang Zuo and others suddenly become greater than the comedy?

Author: Mademoiselle Bovary

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