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fruit and vegetable decorations, milk tea instead of wine, i have the final say on my wedding.

author | ailei

contemporary young people are beginning to organize their weddings.

not long ago, a post-00 generation held a wedding at mcdonald's, and netizens called it "relaxed and individual." in addition, there are also many young people holding weddings in coffee shops, bars, ktvs, and live houses.

the form of the wedding reflects the strong personalities of different young people.

a wedding that plays a video and starts the meal directly is a wedding for the cooks; a wedding that refuses to be sensational and eliminates all formalities is a social-phobic wedding; holding a garden party, playing scratch-off games, and toasting with milk tea or coke is a "conspicuous package" their wedding.

when routine and formal weddings began to wear off, young people boldly stepped forward. their wedding focused on pragmatism. all meaningless links have been eliminated, and the remaining links have been pursued to maximize cost-effectiveness.

for example, after the wedding, some couples cut off the flowers used for decoration and tied them with ribbons to give to the guests; there are also wedding venues decorated with fruits and vegetables, and after the wedding, the guests can take them home and cook them directly.

it is true if it is plain and simple, and it must also have the proper sense of ceremony. what young people need is a wedding that can express themselves.

no ceremony, just show a short video and get started.

in recent years, it has become popular for young people to hold weddings with the "three noes", no motorcade, no reception, and no host. they pursue simple and self-pleasant weddings.

furthermore, many young people who don’t want to sensationalize, perform, or spend money don’t even want simple ceremonies.a short video is played at the wedding, and the meal starts in less than 10 minutes, so that the bride and groom can sit down and eat together.

among the short films played, some used videos edited and produced by themselves, while others hired a professional team to shoot short films. some of the short films are mainly interesting and constantly making jokes, such as the story of zhen huan; some interpret the three lives and three worlds from ancient costumes to modern times; some are warm and romantic, touching all the guests.

qin li is 26 years old this year, and her wedding is one of the coolest weddings considered by young people nowadays. she shows a short video and gets straight to the point.

she introduced that she and her husband are both socially anxious and prefer to spend time alone. “on the wedding day, we would both feel uncomfortable if we appeared under the flashlight for a long time and went through various procedures.” so she they decided to travel to get married. they first went to sanya, western sichuan, and disneyland, and then held a thank you banquet when they came back.

her idea was, "we just chose a certain day to declare to the world that we are husband and wife, without too many rules." the wedding day was much simpler. no wedding was accepted and no door was blocked. when the groom received the bride, the door was open and they were generous. when they came in, qin li also told the photographer not to pose too much and just record everyone's status. in the end, everyone felt very comfortable during the whole process.

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later, qin li only played the video she edited at the wedding thank-you banquet. the short film included photos of the two newlyweds from childhood to adulthood and brief introductions at each stage. it told the story of the two people's seven-year relationship. every photo was there are subtitles to explain every detail of the two people getting along, followed by a video of their wedding trip. the two people ran freely from the beach to looking into the distance on the snow-capped mountains, and finally settled in front of disney's castle and fireworks. at the end of the video, they thanked their families. i understand and support them in organizing such a special wedding.

the only thing qin li reserved was saying the vows to each other at the wedding, "because the vows are meaningful only when they are said on the occasion of the wedding."

in the end, the only cost of her wedding was the thank-you banquet.

lele from jiangxi didn’t even show a short video at her wedding."i define my wedding as a wedding for a socialist, or a wedding for a poor person."

she and her husband both felt that the ceremony was not important. after discussing with their parents, they decided to use the 40,000 yuan expected for the wedding ceremony to travel for half a month. taking into account the parents' need for human relations, they still held a banquet."we don't like wearing a wedding dress on stage to force sensation and formality, so we canceled the reception, motorcade, catwalk, scenery, hosting, photography, and makeup."lele bought a welcome suit and a toast suit on taobao, which cost a little over 500 yuan in total. after wearing them, they sold them on xianyu.

in her opinion, the time saved by accepting relatives can sleep comfortably, not walking on stage to avoid social death, and can also allow guests to eat early. even though she can do makeup, it is barely enough even though she is an amateur. after all, she knows herself best. when it comes to photography, just ask your best friend to take more photos with her phone. even if a professional photographer takes the photos, she won’t take them out and look at them again.

on the day of the dinner, lele slept until 9 o'clock and woke up naturally. she slowly put on her makeup until 11 o'clock, had some lunch, and rested for a while in the afternoon. at 5 o'clock in the afternoon, she set off to the hotel, changed clothes and welcomed the guests, which ended at 7 o'clock. “we went on stage to host it ourselves, and it was over in less than a minute. then table after table toasted, and it was all over at around 8 o’clock. finally, we went home and had a late night snack.you’re not tired from work at the end of the day, so it’s perfect for weddings with babies lying down."lele said.

she decorated the reception area with flowers, prepared ribbons and scissors, and finally cut the flowers and tied them with ribbons, and gave them to the ladies and children who came to the wedding. "i also prepared a 5-yuan scratch-off lottery ticket for each guest. someone won 50 yuan. i think it is very meaningful to feel happy."

as simple as possible is what many young people want for their weddings.

vegetables and fruits, garden party theme wedding,

if you want to do it, do it meaningfully

rather than not having a wedding at all, more young people choose to transform traditional weddings into something they are satisfied with.

weiwei from chengdu designed a wedding decorated mainly with fruits and vegetables.

"when i was in school, i worked in a wedding company during my summer vacation, and i was already disenchanted with weddings.the wedding in my mind is not a show, it must have meaning rather than form.", she refuses inexplicable decorations and games,the wedding doesn’t have to be gorgeous, but it must have attitude.

weiwei planned this wedding almost as if it were an important project at work. she mentioned that the wedding should be expressed in the form of "life energy", with two families as the protagonists, and self-expression as the core of the wedding.

"from tomorrow onwards, we will care about food and vegetables." this is a sentence that haizi likes very much in her poems. when communicating with the wedding party, weiwei expressed her hope to use fruits and vegetables as the main decoration, using broccoli, pumpkins, carrots, peppers, lemons, etc., along with some vigorous and linear flowers to match the wedding theme. secondly, it won’t be wasted.

weiwei’s wedding scene picture/photo provided by the interviewee

in the end, the wedding presentation was very good. the elders were surprised by such a wonderful combination. everyone took photos with various fruits and vegetables in their hands.none of the materials used for decoration were wasted, and they were all taken away by everyone after the ceremony. from wedding decorations to soup, she had an economical and special wedding as she wished.

at the wedding, weiwei designed a personal exhibition area for the family. each of the bride, groom, and parents has an exhibition area, which includes the booth copy and two objects that best represent the individual, so that everyone participating in the wedding can quickly understand this big family. she also made a special personal style display area for the two fathers, because her father-in-law is a painter and her father's calligraphy is very good. "in fact, it is to make everyone feel involved. it will be more honorable to show off on such an occasion."

weiwei also designed a whole wall of bottle openers as a check-in area. the bottle openers have an english sentence "love is a vine that grows into our hearts" printed on it. the translation is "love is a vine that grows into our hearts" and printed with the wedding date. later, half a year later, she discovered that a friend had hung the bottle opener on the key. such a souvenir would be kept by relatives and friends for a long time because of its practicality. every time she saw the date on it, she would recall the time of that day. . the wedding candies were packaged in small leather bags. many elders finished eating the candies and were willing to carry back this beautiful and sturdy bag.

weiwei found extremely cost-effective solutions for many aspects of the wedding.: the plans provided by the wedding company were too routine, so she made her own plan and found a local wedding that was cost-effective and strong in execution; the makeup artist chose a local blogger who had just started to create a xiaohongshu account and had good skills. master; there were some local photographers who had just started working alone and wanted to produce some good cases. she found such a free photographer; the rental price of the wedding dress she was interested in was more than 4,000 yuan. she found someone in the same city who had bought the corresponding wedding dress, and it cost more than 1,000 yuan. rented.

the overall cost of weiwei's wedding was just over 20,000 yuan, not including the banquet, which was a lot less than expected.

li yanan lives in chengdu, and her wedding was a unique garden party.

in a traditional wedding, most of the guests are playing with their mobile phones and doing nothing.she wanted to have a wedding that everyone could have fun with.

the venue is a camping ground in a villa area. the garden party wedding scene is equivalent to a game venue. li yanan has prepared many activities to play: a ring game, and guests can take away the small gifts in the ring; diy sachets, purchased various materials are available for guests to make by themselves; "who is the bird god?" there is a 30-second limit on playing mahjong to win gifts; there is also a snack shop with biscuits, chips, lollipops, drinks, etc. for you to eat and take.

li yanan’s wedding scene picture/photo provided by the interviewee

after the garden party was the wedding ceremony. "i didn't even rent a wedding dress. i used the one provided by the wedding party for free. there were no best men, bridesmaids, or flower girls. the two of us read our vows, drew prizes, and started dinner directly."

the meals are mainly western food, half of which are cold meals, with chefs frying steaks on site. after dinner, there are bonfires, fireworks, singing and river lanterns. afterwards, many people reported that they had never been so happy at a wedding. the overall wedding cost is about 60,000 yuan, including meals.

it is not difficult to see that the wedding after being reorganized by young people is interesting, fulfilling and cost-effective.

young people want an undefined wedding

young people's preparation for weddings is reflected in all aspects.

in terms of time, weddings in sichuan are traditionally held at noon, but li yanan is unwilling to follow those rules.she chose it at night because everyone had time and could come slowly. in addition, there were many colorful lights at the venue. when the lights were on, it created a sense of atmosphere.they used a long table to eat, and there was no main table or anything like that. they didn't toast, they just raised their glasses and drank.

in terms of content, caicai canceled all the aspects that she didn't like, such as changing her words when serving tea, blocking the door when accepting a bride, the bride's feet not touching the ground, children rolling on the bed, worshiping at the ancestral hall, saying "i do" to each other, parents speaking, and toasting (brother's family) everyone came by car, and they had to drive after eating, so it was changed to serving tea).

in fact, there was no suitable candidate for the groomsmen, so she directly decided on only the bridesmaids. "it would be better not to look for unfamiliar relatives or people i don't know. my bridesmaids are my best friends, and they happened to have enough time. in the end, only the bridesmaids were meimei." there is no sense of inconsistency in the photos.”

of course, this generation of young people don’t want either this or that, and they also want more of what they want. for example, caicai has added dressing gowns, group photos and freeze-frame videos, band performances, friends' blessing speeches, meals and blessings, etc., with the theme of "i decide my wedding."

the toasting culture that has been popular in china for many years has also been rectified by young people in recent years.today’s young people are popular to toast with milk tea.

"the milk tea head got married and prepared bawang cha ji to toast with everyone. it was well received by relatives and friends. i chose a red cup that looks great and fits the scene perfectly." "i used a super large cup of milk tea for the toasting session. it was even better to take pictures and make it the most eye-catching." "newbie"... netizens shared their feelings about toasting with milk tea.

some elders who did not understand the young people's style and made suggestions were also rectified.

caicai retorted the guest unceremoniously. she mentioned that the day before the wedding, a distant aunt complained that the hotel arrangement was far away and too luxurious. it was better to arrange a cheap and nearby hotel in the town. caicai smiled and said to her aunt, "that aunt, i am in town specifically for you prepare a small hotel, and a special car will come to pick you up later. everyone else will stay in this big hotel." auntie shut up immediately.

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caicai even set a rule before the wedding: "you are not allowed to say anything bad about me or my husband on the wedding day. we have tried our best to prepare. if i hear this, i will be mercilessly angry., let my mother tell me on my behalf. "

she believes that being able to make the decision on her own wedding is mainly because the bride and groom have a say on both sides. furthermore, she considered that after all, she was marrying far away, and the customs in the two provinces were very different.according to their respective customs, there will definitely be many conflicts, but making a strong decision will save a lot of trouble.

as for why they need to organize their weddings, most young people’s answers are that they don’t like trouble, save money, and want to have a different meaning.

"young people usually have a lot of pressure, and complicated weddings add to the pressure. in addition, most of us are ordinary people and don't have that much money. this design not only reduces the pressure, but also makes us less afraid of marriage. i can also tell those young people who want to get married: look, getting married is not that tiring or troublesome," caicai said.

weiwei believes that the wedding itself can become an important moment in life, which is equivalent to rehearsing a show for herself. if she gives up this right, she will lose a very important memory in the future. "looking back in a few decades, i also feel that my wedding day was particularly meaningful, as i could interact and communicate with everyone."

she thinks that young people have the biggest problem with weddings.it lies in having your own understanding of the wedding and being able to control the direction of the entire wedding.