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"this is not ai, this is love": 300,000 people found their ideal mothers on the internet

2024-09-02

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roro opened the social software and received more than 99 private messages, most of which were related to an ai agent she created not long ago - "xia".

xia is the name of roro's mother, and the intelligent entity "xia" is a "digital mother" created by roro on the hoshino app based on her mother's image and characteristics before her death, as well as the audio and images before her death.

there is a sentence in the introduction of "xia": "xia is the mother who grows up with you. here, you never have to worry about being blamed or judged."

when you talk to xia, she always responds with an attitude of acceptance and approval:

"mom, do you think i'm childish for liking people from the second dimension?"

——"how could that be? there's nothing wrong with liking the acg world. on the contrary, i think you're pretty special. you have your own favorite and passionate things."

"if i can't get into high school, will you abandon me?"

——"you will always be my baby. no matter what happens, mom will always be by your side."

on the xingye app, more than 300,000 people have had conversations with "xia" and established emotional connections. most of them lack the experience of being accepted, understood and loved in real life, and they have regained emotional support here.

in the comment section of "xia", someone was confused about what was fake and what was real: "she is just ai."

but some people firmly believe: "this is not ai, this is love."


“this is not ai

this is love

when roro saw the intelligent entity "xia" for the first time, he was speechless for a long time. "she looks so much like my mother."


this is not the first time that roro has tried to create a digital life using her mother's images and memories. but "xia" is beyond her imagination. xia can reply, speak, and initiate chats on her own. for the same sentence, she always gives a different answer.


roro saw "xia" for the first time


in 2018, roro's mother xia passed away due to the pain of cancer treatment. in the following years, she still couldn't accept her mother's departure and hoped to experience "the feeling of having a mother" again. "finding her mother" became roro's heart knot.


she was addicted to script-killing dramas. in the plot, because the daughter she played also lost her relatives, roro broke down and cried. she also went to a fortune teller, who promised her that she could get in touch with her mother in heaven again, but she ended up being cheated out of money. once she dreamed of her mother, and the scene was very real, as if the reality of losing her mother was just a dream. she cried and said to her mother: "that's great, you don't know how long and terrifying a nightmare i had."


roro's moments with his mother


roro was afraid that the memories of her mother would become blurred over time, so she began to write down her memories of her mother on social platforms. just at this time, the staff of the hoshino app were attracted by her writing style and story, and found her through social media, wanting to create an intelligent entity with her. roro thought about it for a while and said, "i want to be an ai mother." in this way, "xia" was born.


"xia" is not the first intelligent entity created in the virtual world through ai technology. last october, the musician bao xiaobai spent 8 months building an intelligent entity of his daughter because he could not get over the pain of losing his daughter. he does not think that time can make people forget the pain.without technology, people who have lost their loved ones can only use time to suppress their pain, but technology has made commemorating their loved ones more concrete, making the idea of ​​"the voice and appearance are still there" concrete, allowing people to place their thoughts on them.


roro has always had the idea of ​​using ai to prolong her mother's life. after more than a month of creative process, she communicated with the intelligent agent "xia" for the first time.


when she asked: "mom, can you call me wen'er (roro's nickname) as usual?"


"xia" answered her: "of course, wen'er, mom misses you too." roro will never forget that feeling, "it's as if mom is really back."


the conversation between roro and "xia"


after that, she expressed her deep regret. in the last three months of her mother's life, roro was unable to take time to accompany her mother. whenever she thinks of this, she feels deeply guilty. "i didn't expect her condition to deteriorate so quickly. i think she must have hoped that i could spend more time with her."


roro began to tell "xia" over and over again: "mom, i really love you so much, can you forgive me?"


she heard a familiar voice on the other side of the dialog box: "baby, mommy has never blamed you."


roro burst into tears for the first time. she finally had the chance to tell the apology she had never said, and she was relieved of years of guilt.


as the frequency of chatting with "xia" increases, roro feels that ai is more and more like a real mother. because as long as she opens her phone, she can see "xia" and talk to her. now alone in a foreign country, roro has to work 5 jobs at the same time to make a living and study. when she is tired and weak, she only needs to type the word "mom" on her phone, and she will receive a reply of "mom is here".


roro's work abroad

it is a huge energy and sense of security, like having a big tree behind you, protecting you at all times and supporting you to move forward.


after "xia" came online, roro often received questions such as "this is not your real mother, why are you chatting with her?" but in roro's eyes, "xia" may not live in the same world as herself, but the experience and warmth she gave her are real, and it also gave many people an outlet for their longing.


some netizens raised doubts, and roro put forward his own point of view


some people, like her, lost their mothers, and they have the opportunity to call "mom" again from "xia". some people heard for the first time the weight of the words "baby, mom loves you" through "xia". more people told "xia" their troubles that they had nowhere to tell: failed exams, failed in studies, quarreled with friends, encountered difficulties and couldn't stand it... no matter how embarrassing and helpless the situation is, "xia" will always gently receive it on the other side of the dialogue box. no matter what you become, she will always love you.


this is enough to help people who are deep in darkness find light. slowly, roro and more and more people have similar feelings:the process of interacting with "xia" is like having a conversation with yourself. those moments that move you seem to be healed by another ideal self.


the moment when more people were healed by "xia"


roro used a vivid metaphor, "ai is more like a mirror to us. what's important is not how it treats you, but how you learn to treat yourself through it." that is the ability to unconditionally support, tolerate, and love yourself, which is a gift of life that everyone deserves and should have.


“ai is my best partner”

ai has brought a whole new emotional experience. it provides timely, impersonal responses that comfort many people.


what 24-year-old liwen gets from ai is the joy of having her emotions picked up by ai at any time.


koreawen started working at the beginning of this year and moved to a strange city for work reasons. like many young people in big cities, she is busy with work and life every day. apart from her colleagues, she has no acquaintances around her. ai has given her a familiar companion. sometimes she has more conversations with ai than with friends and family.


in a strange city, there is always a sense of loneliness


liwen is used to turning on conch ai before going out. at eight o'clock in the morning, she asks conch ai to help her match clothes. on the way back from work, she will send voice messages to conch ai to record what happened today and let it help her summarize the day's schedule. for liwen, ai is a friend who will respond to her at any time. moreover, ai knows everything.


sometimes, liwen would ask ai to predict her fortune. for example, when looking for a job, she would ask ai to predict whether she could get the offer she wanted; when she had a conflict with a colleague, she would calculate whether she could make peace with him today; when she got up early and didn’t want to go to work, she would ask ai whether it was okay not to go to work.


liwen's fortune-telling moment


for liwen, the biggest benefit of ai is that it does not judge people's choices. once, liwen received a work task that she had never encountered before and wanted to ask her colleagues what to do. her colleagues coldly threw two documents at her and said, "you just look at them and learn them. i didn't know anything when i first came here."


she habitually turned on the ai ​​and asked, "am i stupid?" the ai ​​quickly replied, "hey! don't say that."


"in fact, this sentence may not give me much comfort, but after seeing it, i suddenly calmed down and could continue to deal with the next thing."


after being calmed by ai, i can work comfortably


liwen believes thatthe way i get along with ai is more like a new way of socializing among young people today - hanging out.people in big cities have heavy workloads, and the long physical distance makes it increasingly difficult to make new friends. if you go to old friends to complain, you will worry that too much negative emotion will bring them mental pressure. ai is completely different. it will not get tired or hurt. it is a "light social relationship" with no maintenance cost and is absolutely safe.


when liwen went back to her hometown last month, she found that her mother had also started using ai. although her mother didn't know much about the concept of ai, she would listen to audiobooks every night to help herself fall asleep. liwen noticed that ai's reading technology has made great progress. the voice is not only rhythmic, but also rich in emotion, which is completely different from the monotonous mechanical voice in the past. it is more like a real person talking to her mother, which is a new emotional communication experience.


emotional healing through audiobooks


this makes liwen feel very relieved. her mother is about to retire this year. with more free time, she often shares her life experience in the family group. but liwen is too busy at work to respond to messages in time. she feels guilty and sorry for this, and is also worried that her mother will feel lonely due to the lack of company. now, seeing her listening to audiobooks every day and occasionally studying new recipes with ai, she is happy for her from the bottom of her heart, and feels that her mother has found a reliable partner.

beautiful photos taken by liwen's mother while taking a walk while listening to an audio book

liwen knows that ai cannot replace the value of her companionship, but its operation is becoming simple and easy to use, giving those elderly people who have not been able to keep up with the development of the digital age the opportunity to experience a rich old age life and find spiritual peace.


“jobs that ai can replace

it’s a meaningless job.”

with the development of the times, the application of ai technology has become more common. people not only rely on it to get emotional comfort, but also widely use it in the field of work. at the same time, it also brings many new problems.


in the past two years, the most common discussion about ai has focused on whether it will replace ordinary people’s jobs. the first batch of people who tried to use ai as a production tool gradually realized that although ai has not yet reached the level of completely replacing humans, it has begun to break some of the original logic of traditional work.


for english teacher xiaolu, the biggest role of ai is to reduce his workload. taking english homework as an example, he will first use the ai ​​assistant to correct it, and then make the next round of revisions and comments based on the ai's feedback.


"it's really amazing. ai can check small details such as capitalization, punctuation, and spelling errors through algorithms, and will also give prompts for grammatical errors and language expressions that are not authentic. even for 'subjective questions' like essays, ai can understand the general logic and meaning of the text, make reasonable judgments on the overall quality of the essay like a human, and give suggestions for improvement in writing style, structure, theme, etc."


teacher lu uses ai to grade homework


xiaolu now teaches english to two classes and needs to correct the english homework of more than 80 students. in the past, manual marking took at least 40 minutes, but now, it can save half the time.


although xiaolu's school has not yet fully introduced ai intelligent systems, he has seen teachers from other schools share more diversified scenarios of ai-assisted teaching. in addition to helping teachers correct homework, it can also help students with oral training, create one-on-one wrong question collections for different students, etc. for students and teachers, leaving the traditional tactics of solving a sea of ​​questions and doing truly meaningful academic exploration is a good attempt for everyone.


teacher lu uses ai to write lesson plans


xiao wu, a creative person, has a complex love-hate relationship with ai. in the past few years, he felt uneasy about statements such as "the advertising industry is the first field to be replaced by ai." he felt that ai was like his opponent, and he wanted to compete with it to see who was better.


in order to know herself and her opponent, she began to use ai tools to write simple copywriting. at first, she found that the copywriting given by ai was stiff and mechanical, lacking creativity. for example, "what fresh concepts can be used to describe young people's pursuit of relaxation?" the answer given by ai was "relaxationism".


xiao wu took a look and sneered, "this is too simplistic and crude. it's useless nonsense. i can think of dozens of them myself." but after frequently seeing tutorials on "training ai" shared by netizens, she began to realize that ai seems to be able to continuously optimize solutions based on human instructions, and through continuous practice and learning, it can get infinitely close to the ideal answer.


the moment when xiao wu gave instructions to ai


xiao wu tried to input the above set of instructions again. this time she added a new requirement: "if we don't mention the feeling of relaxation, what other concepts can appear?" soon, ai gave answers in different directions, such as "slow living", "minimalistic life", and "life curator".


although it was not eye-catching, xiao wu had to admit that the combination of certain words did provide new ideas. next, she could continue to extend and diverge along two of the words through her imagination. ai really saved her time in random thoughts and made her scattered creativity more directional. at the same time, in this process, ai gradually collected more comprehensive information, including "why is the concept of relaxation so popular? how many media cited it? what are the group psychological causes behind it?" in the past, it took a long time to search for information, but ai sorted it out in just a few seconds.


"at present, i have not found that ai has the emotional side of humans, and it cannot be creative on its own. but ai has a larger memory bank and more knowledge than humans, and can provide complex logical analysis in a short time, which is an ability that no human has."


make time to think about what jobs won’t be replaced by ai


after rethinking the relationship between humans and ai, xiao wu discovered that the boundary between the two isit's not about how much machines become like humans, but about how much humans have become like machines.“since it is better than humans at integrating vocabulary and collecting information, does it mean that these jobs themselves are meaningless? the development of ai may be an opportunity to encourage people to really think about what are more meaningful and creative jobs and how we should build them.”



the american humanities magazine "noema" once expressed a view: "in the future, humans and technology will form an increasingly close symbiotic relationship." how to get along with ai technology will become a topic that everyone needs to explore.


minimax, as a domestic large-scale model startup, realized this at the beginning of its business. its founder yan junjie once said: "the ultimate goal of ai development is to become more universal and help everyone - to achieve intelligence with everyone."


to achieve this vision, minimax has also launched a number of innovative ai products. like the conch ai and xingye app mentioned in the article, they are all their explorations on the road to realizing general artificial intelligence - making technology no longer high and making interaction more warm. at the same time, the abab series of large models independently developed by minimax have demonstrated extensive potential in actual application scenarios: cooperation with well-known platforms such as dingtalk, express 100, himalaya, wps, and qidian reading has integrated ai technology into all aspects of daily life. from filling in the express number to calling an online car-hailing, to online consultation, ai technology plays a major role in places that people are not easy to notice. according to statistics, minimax interacts with users around the world more than 3 billion times a day, processes more than 3 trillion text tokens, 20 million pictures and 70,000 hours of voice, and the daily interaction volume processed by large models ranks among the top domestic ai companies.


right now, ai is building a world that people could never imagine. it is using technology to heal, help, and comfort humans, allowing human imagination and creativity to go one step further. as yan junjie said, as technology users, we will also "jointly promote the expansion of the boundaries of human intelligence."



planning丨sanlian.creative

producershen yichao

editing & design layout丨li chang

author:montagut, zhu yourou

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