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With the announcement of Shenzhen’s senior high school entrance exam results, the annual entrance exam has finally come to an end.But everyone was not calm because of the end of the high school entrance examination.

Those who did well in the exam celebrated while throwing themselves into the new battlefield of the first year of high school.Those who did not perform well in the exam are still struggling and struggling.

Regret, unwillingness, disbelief, mutual blame, no consolation...

T’s mom is my fan. A few days ago, she cried to me and told me that her child failed the high school entrance exam and could no longer attend a public high school.

Little T’s grades are average and his family doesn’t have high expectations of him. They just want him to get into a public high school.

Little T performed well in several high school entrance exam mock tests. He is working harder and harder and his learning momentum is very good.T's mother was very nervous about the high school entrance exam and was afraid that she would not be able to fill in the application form properly.I spent 2,000 yuan to find an agency to fill it out.

But the questions in this year's high school entrance examination were relatively difficult, and Little T did not do well in mathematics, which affected his performance later on, making the high school entrance examination his worst performance.

Because the last choice was slightly higher,Little T failed and was not admitted to any public high school.The family still cannot accept this reality, and little T is so sad that he doesn't want to eat.

T's dad always blames T's mom, saying that she shouldn't have gone to an agency to fill out her application, and that she should have researched such a big thing on her own.

T's mother was exhausted dealing with them and just wanted to find a reliable private high school for her child.

A very competitive little beauty,

Asking to repeat

Xiaomei is very beautiful, with a tall and well-proportioned figure, and she stands out in the crowd.She studied dance for more than ten years and only stopped at the end of the first semester of the third year of junior high school.

Her mother hopes that Xiaomei will apply for the second-class self-recruited dance major in the high school entrance examination, so that Xiaomei will have a greater chance of entering the top four or eight universities.

But Xiaomei was determined not to do it, because her academic performance was relatively good and if she worked hard she would have a chance of getting into one of the top eight universities. She did not want to apply for the second-category self-recruitment.

Classmates with similar academic performance to her would not consider the second-category self-recruitment, as they all thought that only “poor students” would choose the second-category self-recruitment.Xiaomei's mother couldn't do anything with her, so she just let Xiaomei not participate in the independent enrollment.

After being admitted to the high school entrance examination, Xiaomei did not perform well and did not fill in her application form correctly, so she was reduced to the last choice and was admitted to a high school that she really disliked and looked down upon.

What was even more unacceptable to her was that the other girls in the dance team, those “poor students” whose grades were far worse than hers, were admitted to the top eight or even the top four high schools.

She cried and asked to repeat the grade at home, saying that she would never go to that "bad school".

Xiaomei’s mother was very conflicted and didn’t know how to persuade her child.

Little C usually has good grades and likes science. There is a culture of advanced learning in his junior high school and he also has a lot of extracurricular tutoring.

Little C finished math, physics and chemistry in his first and second year of junior high school. He started studying high school courses in an institution during the summer vacation of his second year of junior high school and is still studying high school courses in the first semester of his third year of junior high school.

Little C's mother hopes that her son can take the self-recruitment route. She has heard that the self-recruitment of the Big Four will exceed the syllabus, and is afraid that her son will suffer if he does not learn high school courses in advance. So even though her friends around her have advised her to go all out for the high school entrance examination in the third year of junior high school, she is reluctant to withdraw from the institution's "high-end class."

In several major exams in the third year of junior high school, Little C's grades fluctuated. When he was doing well, he was always in the top four, and when he was doing badly, he was still in the top eight. Little C's mother was not worried about the high school entrance exam, but was worried about self-recruitment.

However, what is infuriating is that even though Xiao C was determined to apply for the Big Four self-recruitment, he was not even shortlisted for the self-recruitment registration.

This year, the self-recruitment list was announced before the high school entrance examination. When Xiao C and his mother saw that he was not on the self-recruitment list of his dream school, they were dumbfounded.

After working hard for three years on the so-called "self-recruitment route", in the end I didn't even get the qualification for self-recruitment.

Mom said nothing and Little C was also unhappy.Little C went to the high school entrance examination with this mood, and did not perform well, scoring more than ten points less than usual.

After getting the results, the mother and son hugged each other and cried bitterly. Little C's mother didn't go out for several days and couldn't eat.

She still has to rely on her son Xiao C to comfort her.The sensible little C said to his mother:“If I can’t get into the Big Four in high school, I will study hard. If I can’t win the junior high school entrance exam, I can win the college entrance exam!”

But little C’s mother is still upset!

The "self-recruitment road" that I carefully designed and worked hard on not only failed to help my child get into the four key classes, but also prevented my son from even getting into the four ordinary classes...

The high school entrance examination is a foregone conclusion. What I want to say is: don’t care too much about the gains and losses of a particular time and place. When you enter high school, you will know that the high school entrance examination is really nothing.

No matter what the high school entrance examination scores are, it cannot change the child’s original strength.

Not doing well in the high school entrance examination does not mean that the child is not excellent, nor does it mean that there is no hope for the future.

Instead of wasting time, it is better to look forward.

The road to learning is very long. As long as you keep working hard and accumulate knowledge day by day, you will definitely win in the distant future.

For parents, I thinkNo matter what time, you must provide a safety net for your children, or find a suitable Plan B.

Because whether it is the junior high school entrance examination or the college entrance examination, it is a one-time deal, even the best children may perform poorly in the examination room.

It’s natural to be happy if you do well in the exam, but what if you don’t do well?

Children are only in their teens, and they cannot shoulder the entire future. At critical moments, parents still have to help and pull their children to a better platform.

Many parents, including myself, have made various preparations for their children’s further studies in advance (college entrance exams, art exams, physical exams, international exams, DSE…)

As for my family, I support my two children no matter which path they take, the college entrance examination or the international direction.

All I have to do is make sure they have the choice.I applied for Hong Kong citizenship for my whole family in the hope of giving my two children more opportunities.

After all, universities in Hong Kong provide more opportunities and cheaper tuition fees to Hong Kong locals, which is a very good choice for my family.

Many people say that I am rather indifferent and relaxed about my child’s further education, but in fact, only I know that the feeling of relaxation is not something that can be created without a source or a tree without roots.

The feeling of relaxation comes from confidence and the calmness after having more good cards in hand.

Author: Dr. Xiaoyu, mother of two children, chief physician, psychotherapist, author of millions of popular articles, has written many online articles with more than 100,000 views, and is a high-influence KOL in the Bay Area.

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