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60-year-old Bozi and 44-year-old Laoyang are a DINK couple.

They live in downtown Shanghai.

Leading a quiet semi-retired life.

The two of them cook, play chess, exercise, and listen to music every day...

The purpose is to "live a good life".

Lao Yang and Bozi cook and enjoy delicious food together, water the flowers, read books, and go out for walks together

Bozi once worked at a record company in Hong Kong.

I was physically and mentally exhausted.

After resigning in 2006, I returned to Shanghai.

All the old furniture and old utensils that had been used for many years were moved here.

She was 38 years old at the time, and at a friend's party,

I met 22-year-old Lao Yang.

Old Sheep is good at cooking.

Cantonese cuisine, Southeast Asian cuisine, and Japanese cuisine are all good.

In the 20 years they have been together, Bozi has gained 30 pounds.

Lao Yang and Bozi are relaxing at home

“On many major life issues,

I wouldn't put that much thought into it.

But if you go to an artifact exhibition and want to buy a shirt,

I can get it if I work hard, I just work hard. "

As for the future pension issue,

Bozi doesn't have so many plans and considerations.

"I enjoy what God has given me."

Self-introduction: Bo Zi

Editor: Zhang Yalan

Editor: Ni Chujiao

I am 60 years old and my husband is 44. We have been together for 21 years and have never thought about having children. We have been semi-retired for more than ten years and live a very peaceful and comfortable life.

When I was in my 20s, I went to Hong Kong and worked as a music monitor for a record company in Hong Kong. Karaoke was popular at that time, and I also worked in Andy Lau's company, but the work was very busy, and the 24 hours were disrupted. I often had to work late at night and on weekends. Although I liked the job at that time, after years of working, I felt exhausted physically and mentally. It seemed that I didn't know what to look forward to, and my life had lost its passion.

Bozi worked in Hong Kong when he was in his 30s

An early photo of Lao Yang and Bozi.

Lao Yang: "After we had been together for quite a while, I found out her age by chance. I needed to apply for an ID and saw that she was born in 1964. My first reaction was that it didn't match, but then I thought, what does it matter? As long as we are happy together, that's all that matters."

I have always lived alone, watched movies alone, and eaten alone. I remember there was a typhoon once and I couldn’t find a car. There was a strong wind outside and I searched for a car floor by floor. It was very dangerous, but I got through it all alone.

In 2002, I went back to Shanghai to visit my grandmother. I wanted to buy a house at that time. I bought a house on the ground floor. There were many trees and a big balcony. I could hear the sound of rain even when it rained. I felt very comfortable. So after I got used to that life, I couldn't go back. In 2006, I officially planned to quit my job and live a semi-retired life.

After returning to Shanghai, I met Lao Yang. I met him at a friend's party. At that time, I was 38 years old and Lao Yang was 22 years old. He was also very outgoing and reliable, and we became familiar with each other naturally without any ups and downs.

The home of Lao Yang and Bo Zi is filled with 20-30 year old furniture.

We had a lot of differences from the beginning. For example, I like to watch "The Godfather", "The Golden House", or some movies with long shots and very artistic conception, while Lao Yang likes to watch "One Piece".

I like listening to music very much, but sometimes I am short of money, so he lets me go to the concerts by myself. When the weather is very hot, he will squeeze orange juice at home, put it in the refrigerator, and then wait for me at the door. When I come out, he will give me the orange juice. If he goes with me, I will have no juice to drink (laughs), so those differences do not affect us.

At home, Bozi often orders something she wants to eat, and Laoyang will cook it for her personally.

When Bozi wakes up every day, he plays music, eats breakfast, and reads books.

We are a DINK family and have never thought about having children. I feel that I am not grown up enough and do not have the ability to be a mother.

And maybe I'm selfish. There are 24 hours in a day, and I sleep for 8 hours. I spend the remaining ten hours in a daze and taking care of trivial things at home. I also have many hobbies. I like to draw sketches, listen to music, and relax myself. Everything takes a lot of time and energy. If I spend all my time on teaching my children, I won't have time. I think I should live my own life well first.

When I was in my 40s, I jokingly asked Lao Yang, "Do you want to catch the last train? Last order (last chance), if not, then never mention having a child again." He said no, why are you trying to get someone killed? I just tried to test him, and finally found that we were very firm and consistent on this point.

Lao Yang and Bo Zi play chess together and often joke with each other

Our goal now is to "live a good life", prepare three meals a day, and do what we want to do.

When Lao Yang was in his 30s, he started to consider freelancing. He had some concerns at the time, but I told him that although we are not rich now, we are not badly off, at least we don’t have to worry about food and drink. It would be better to be a freelancer, and maybe we can find a new career direction.

Later we raised a puppy together. We went to a pet show and saw a poodle, very small. I hugged it and it lay comfortably on my shoulder. I walked around it three times and hugged it three times. The third time, I actually felt like I was abandoning it if I put it down again. Then we took the puppy home.

The puppy is also a healing force in our lives. We have never let it eat dog food. We always cook for it ourselves and we really enjoy the process.

Since we both have a lot of appetites, we studied cooking together, so we can eat different delicacies all year round. After being with him, I gained 30 pounds.

There was no special opportunity for Lao Yang to start cooking. After we semi-retired at home, we liked to study food and felt that our own cooking was delicious and healthy. When Lao Yang was young, because food was scarce, he loved to eat, so he would try to cook some food. He is good at cooking many cuisines, but basically we cook more seasonal dishes.

Lao Yang: "Food is very soothing. Every time when guests come to my house, we eat until the food is delicious, and I feel a great sense of accomplishment."

For example, it is the Lesser Heat season now, and we are eating edamame, eels, and June yellow. In the summer, it is hot, so we eat lighter food. In the winter, to keep warm, we will eat more high-calorie meat.

Every time we go out to eat, I will tell Lao Yang that he will definitely be able to cook this dish and cook it very well. He will try it when he gets home and say that I am PUAing him. Actually, I am lazy, so I will encourage him more.

Bozi always takes pictures of the food that Laoyang cooks.

Lao Yang is very patient. No matter if there are 8 or 10 friends at home, Lao Yang can make good arrangements.

In addition to cooking, we also play chess, drink tea, and like sports. In the past, we spent time in the gym. Now we prefer to walk on the street. If it doesn’t rain, we sometimes go for a 5-6 km run. A day goes by very quickly.

Because Bozi likes to collect artifacts, Lao Yang also learned to do Kintsugi. Lao Yang said, "I think doing these things can calm people down. At home, we each have our own things to do. She likes to drink tea and read books, and I like to do some repair work. She is responsible for making it look good, and I am responsible for making her happy."

Because I like to collect porcelain, but porcelain is always bound to have some bumps and bruises, Lao Yang later learned Kintsugi. He learned it from the Internet. After repairing it, the porcelain will have another kind of beauty.

Our views are basically the same. As long as we can accompany each other and do what we want, and our family is happy and healthy, we will feel content and happy.

A corner of the house

My concept of home is not that I am the owner or have the deed to a house. I feel that wherever I live is home. Even if it is a very small house, as long as I have a roof over my head, I am fine as long as I am there.

The piano and wall cabinets in my house are now 30 years old. I also brought back some paintings and cabinets from Hong Kong, and they are still in great condition.

Because I grew up at my grandmother's house when I was a child, and the things in her house at that time were relatively old, such as record players and vinyl records, which I particularly liked. I think old things carry traces of time.

So later, whether I bought or rented a house, I required that everything be vacated, not even a small stool or a newspaper could be left. I wanted everything I used and was used to. For example, the curtains I bought in 2000 are still in use.

The writing utensils that Nami likes are made by Ichino Yoshiki and Sato Momoko

The objects of Takashi Ichikawa that Nami likes

There is actually no aesthetic sense in the things in our house. They are mainly practical. There are also some sundries in the cabinets. As long as the cabinets can withstand the storage, you can put anything in them. We don’t deliberately design how to arrange them, we just follow the most comfortable state.

I still have a lot of old pine cabinets at home, which look very textured now. I put a lot of objects on the cabinets. I like many of the furniture of writers, such as Takashi Ishikawa and Tomoko Sakai. I also have a cabinet at home that has been used for more than 20 years, which contains a lot of records I have collected.

The various utensils in the house were collected by Bozi from different places.

It seems that I don’t spend too much time thinking about many big issues in life because many things are beyond my control.

But I will pay more attention to many small things. For example, if I want to go to an artifact exhibition and buy a shirt, I can get it if I work hard, so I will be very attentive, but I am not very promising.

I used to like a bed very much. It was handmade in a small village in Sweden for 160 years. I was reluctant to buy it because it was very expensive. It was not until my 50th birthday that I decided to buy it back. I spent 20,000 yuan to airfreight it back. After all, one-third of my life is spent in bed, so why not buy a good bed? After buying it, I felt that my old waist finally had a place to rest.

Lao Yang and Bozi feed stray cats downstairs in the community all year round, and they will send sick cats to the hospital for treatment.

After all, Lao Yang is younger than me, and many people will worry whether he will change his mind in the future. I think our relationship with anyone is just like the relationship with a plant or a tree. It follows the laws of nature and will always disappear. It is destined by heaven. It sounds like a sarcastic remark, but you have to accept it. So first of all, you have to be content with yourself and protect your heart.

I think I was born with a kind of insensitivity. I have always been a wild child. When I was young, I lived with my grandparents. No one taught me what I should do or how well I should do my homework. I grew up like a little flower or grass. When I was young, I was a person, very introverted, and didn't have much desire to speak and express myself. I always liked to observe first. I think I am very vivid.

When I was young, I also had age anxiety. When I was just 25, I felt like I was middle-aged and old. But after I turned 30, I suddenly let it go and relaxed. At that time, I also quit smoking.

I am probably a bit stingy and don't spend much money on my face. I don't want to spend money on my face because I don't believe those things are useful. I am also afraid of pain when doing beauty treatments. So far, I haven't even pierced my ears.

The two go downstairs every day to take a walk or run together. Lao Yang said: "I occasionally feel a little anxious about the future, but I am also a casual and free-spirited person. I don't plan too much. I think being with my family, being healthy, and enjoying the present are the most important things."

We have no special plans for our future life, and have never thought of any special way to provide for our old age. My best friends didn't understand it before, and they thought we should at least buy some insurance. In this regard, neither of us has given it much thought. I have a large deposit and no financial management. I always think these things are too troublesome. I get a headache when I see contracts. It seems that day by day, I just go with the flow.

I feel like 10 years has gone by very quickly. Maybe when I am 70 years old and sitting here, I will have a similar mentality as I do today. Maybe one day I will suddenly have a thought in my head and want to do something, but I don’t know yet.

I am also a person who makes mistakes very easily. Every time I make a mistake, I feel a special pleasure. I feel that every wall and every pit in life cannot be escaped. If I want to jump into a pit, no one can stop me. So when I was young, I never listened to the advice of the older generation, and I will not give any advice to young people.

I never yearn for anything in particular, or refuse anything. I seem to know naturally that you should enjoy what God gives you. This is a consistent rule of life.