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“no matter how good your relationship is, you must learn to leave some space!"the friendship between gentlemen is as pure as water."

recently, a blogger from henan named "coolbaochibubao" shared his daily experiences with friends on a social platform and quoted a picture describing the concept of friendship: "because i am really not good at keeping in touch with others. for me, most social activities are very hard. but for the person i like, i will always treat him as a good friend, regardless of whether i contact him or not. although i won't stick to you every day, it doesn't affect your preciousness in my heart. i won't go against my instinct to deliberately cater to others and pretend to be a 'strong person'."

"it's exactly the same!" in the comment section, many young people who pursue a sense of boundaries empathized and said they have fallen in love with "zero sugar social interaction".a female netizen from anhui agreed with this statement. she lamented that it was really tiring to maintain a close relationship for a long time. the way she usually gets along with her friends is to live their own lives and then meet up after a while to exchange updates with each other.

young people who are “looking for themselves”

making "zero sugar social" popular

maintaining one's own independence in social relationships, giving both parties free space, and not relying too much on the emotional value of others is "zero sugar socializing." many netizens believe that "zero sugar socializing" can establish healthier and equal interpersonal relationships, eliminate too many meaningless additions, and reduce the burden on the body, mind, and even life.

xiaoxiang morning news·morning video reporter searched and found thatthe reading volume of topics related to "zero-sugar social networking" on weibo has exceeded 10 million, and there are more than a thousand related notes on xiaohongshu. on major social platforms, "zero-sugar social networking" has become a new trend of "finding yourself".

△image source: xiaohongshu screenshot

at the age of 27, andy recorded his first step of starting "zero sugar social networking" on the social platform: no internal consumption, and start living alone as the real "me". andy took the initiative to break the false "social prosperity" and no longer pursue the "exquisite circle of friends", but spent more time on discovering new interests and hobbies.i would go to various markets alone and discover the simple joys in life.

25-year-old "iamss" is currently taking the postgraduate entrance exam.since january this year, "iamss" has closed her moments and her relationships with people around her have become distant. "before, i liked to tell everyone about the little things i encountered and i also liked to post them on moments.""iamss" likes to socialize and talk a lot, but now, apart from her family, the only people she regularly chats with are one or two friends from high school. in "iamss's" opinion, it is equally important to enjoy the process of working hard alone:when you feel happy, others may not be happy for you. when you are sad, others may not empathize with you. so just work hard! living your life well is the most important thing!

in the days of following the trajectory of life and learning to digest it by oneself, some people truly enjoy being alone and accept themselves more. after closing the circle of friends for two years, the netizen "wu yian" deeply understands the importance of cherishing time: perhaps, each of us needs to give ourselves some time to be alone, a few days, weeks or months, so that we can be our best friends and eternal companions.

i please "me",

keep more sugar for yourself

"people need space and a sense of propriety between each other."traditional social models often emphasize group consciousness, while "zero-sugar socialization" is just the opposite. people choose social objects based on their personal interests and needs, rather than being bound by social interaction, moving from "for others" to "for themselves."

according to the 2024 social trend insight report released by just so soul research institute in early 2024, young people today have an average of two close friends. when asked about the "ideal state of getting along with friends," 54% of young people chose "frequent contact, but also have their own private space," a proportion far higher than the 12.6% who chose "sticking together every day." at the same time, the data also shows that each young person today has an average of two friends, and 24% of young people say they are loners and don't have friends with whom they can talk about everything. in terms of time spent together, they spend an average of 8.25 hours a week, and young people in beijing, shanghai, guangzhou and shenzhen spend the least time with their friends.

more and more young people, through their active pursuit of self-discovery, have demonstrated that “zero sugar” is not only a lifestyle, but also a way of socializing.of course, no matter which choice you make, it all depends on personal preference. grasping your own certainty and following your heart is the best option for you.

which social method do you prefer? welcome to leave a message in the comment area to discuss.

xiaoxiang morning news reporter hu qiuxian and intern tang chenxi