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it is the beginning of the new school year again. students will meet their teachers, classmates and roommates again after more than a month of absence. some students are looking forward to reuniting with their roommates, some students feel stressed because of the different living habits with their roommates, and some students are nervous about meeting unfamiliar roommates. roommates meet for the first time...dormitory life is an important part of campus life. today we will discuss how to get along with roommates in the dormitory. will roommates become good friends?

“my college roommates are all gods!the requests for bringing meals and picking up packages are not excessive, and the money is given directly and happily! as for the hygiene issue, at the beginning, there was a clean roommate who cleaned the dormitory, and everyone felt embarrassed when they saw it, so we made a duty roster! we also have a general cleaning every semester, and the dormitory is made very clean. other students who come to our dormitory will definitely praise our dormitory for being clean! opening windows for ventilation is also discussed and agreed upon. everyone is super nice, and no one in the dormitory has ever quarreled. it is very harmonious! "@记忆力好看ye

"we just treat the dormitory as our own home. the relationship between the dormitory members is also very good. we can sleep when we want to sleep and talk when we want to talk.when several people live together, influence is inevitable.some people call in the middle of the night, some call early in the morning, which is normal in our dormitory. everyone has a different schedule. in our dormitory, there are people sleeping at almost every time. the main thing is that you sleep and i am busy. i will not lower my movements or voices just because someone is sleeping.everyone influences each other, so no one should blame anyone else.if you are woken up, go back to sleep. if you can't sleep, find something to do. even if everyone is asleep, if one person makes a phone call in the dormitory, no one will say anything. the air conditioner can be turned on as long as one person wants to. if it's cold, you can put on more clothes, but if it's hot, you can't take off your clothes. if there is a conflict, find the best solution quickly, and if anyone is dissatisfied, just say it directly. we have lived together for more than three years, and our relationship has always been good. "@brandy

"the work and rest schedules in our dormitory are basically inconsistent. one night, six of us went to bed at around 11:00, 1:00, 2:00, 3:00, 4:00, and 5:00, respectively. the next day, we woke up at different times. however, we still get along well. as long as there are people sleeping in the dormitory, we will consciously lower the volume when reminded. so we haven't had any arguments over work and rest schedules in more than three years. the public expenses are all shared equally, and each person is responsible for dormitory hygiene for a week. if the garbage is not taken out, the roommate will directly urge it. although the dormitory is small and full of things, it is still quite warm after cleaning." @西川

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"as a 'middle-aged girl' born in the 1980s who graduated from college almost 20 years ago, i still miss the happy times i spent with my college roommates. the six people in the dormitory came from all over the world and had different personalities, so we never insisted on being 'uniform', but respected each other and let everyone have their own comfortable way of getting along. as the only 'small town test-taker' in the dormitory, i have always been grateful to these sisters. they encouraged me to participate in various campus activities, took me to experience the bar culture on the streets of chengdu, taught me to put on makeup before i looked for a job, pretended to be a 'student' to listen to my lectures, and urgently helped me to cram various current affairs... i always felt that they were the real 'mentors' of my college life, guiding me from a 'scholar' to a 'college student'. when we parted after graduation, we wore the same t-shirts and agreed to leave the campus at the same time. no one cried because we believed that a bright future was waiting for us.therefore, a good roommate relationship does not necessarily require the roommates to be of the same type. while a hundred flowers bloom, they can complement each other and let everyone bloom with their own unique charm.”@there is plum without snow

“i was born in the 1970s and did not go to college.high school roommates may be from the same place, and now they are middle-aged and have become best friends. although they don’t contact each other often, they always have each other in their hearts.. after entering the society, my colleagues and friends can no longer talk to each other. it is really like people are forgotten when they leave. ” @凤凰花2794

"maybe i'm really old. i was born before 1985.when we were young, roommates were considered “brothers and sisters sent by god”, but why do kids now ask “can roommates be friends?”@yidan

"you must have a sense of boundaries when it comes to money. if you ask someone to bring you food, buy you drinks, or go out for dinner or karaoke, you should split the bill.don't forget to pay when you should. some people are really annoying. don't you know why they ignore you?"@the humming lady

“i suggest those who are afraid of the cold and don’t allow others to turn on the air conditioner to apply to the school to live in the same room. why can’t the air conditioner be turned on unless the temperature is above 38 degrees?i am here to study, not to suffer. can't you consider the feelings of normal people?if you are cold, you put on some clothes. if i am hot, what should i do? skin me?" @cancercarlos

“i’m about to start school, and after reading so many cases, i’m really afraid of meeting roommates i can’t get along with.i left snacks in the dormitory and dared not eat them when i got home for fear of poisoning. i also dared not use cosmetics for fear of damaging my face. i had to check if there were needles in my clothes before wearing them... to be honest, i was so nervous that i became a little neurotic.”@Urula

“my roommate was up in the middle of the night.she started washing up at 12:30 in the middle of the night, then took her time to do yoga, then opened bottles and jars to wipe her face, and it was already one or two o'clock when she went to sleep. then she set the alarm clock for 7 o'clock, the kind with a ringing sound, chirping non-stop, but she couldn't get up.i have talked to her about it, but her attitude is pretty good. she said she would change, but she didn't take any action. what should i do? "@momomo

"i have always had the problem of snoring. i told my classmates about my snoring problem since i lived in the dormitory in high school. everyone understood. then i would sleep after they fell asleep. basically, there was no conflict.but my college roommate couldn’t stand my snoring and got up every day to complain about me, which made me feel embarrassed.”@🍠

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"i don't know since when going to the library has become something you have to hide from others.every time i came back from outside, my roommates would ask me where i had been. once i said i went to the library, and they said, "what's there to do when you're just a freshman?"so when i go to the library next time, i will just tell them that the club is on duty. ” @云和星

“i really want to change my dorm! but one of my classmates went to the counselor and the head teacher, but the teachers thought it was a minor conflict and refused to change it.i also asked the counselor, and she wanted to talk to the people in our dormitory. i didn't tell her that if she wanted to talk, i would not be able to stay in that dormitory anymore. @苦情歌

"in fact, the atmosphere in our dormitory is pretty good, but i don't know why they isolated me. maybe i'm a little shy and don't like to talk much. after the military training, i went back home during the first vacation because it was close to home. after that, i experienced almost a semester and a half of cold violence. if someone secretly created a group and didn't include me in the group assignment, i could understand it. but i don't understand why no one in the dormitory talked to me. even when i wanted to talk to them by name, they didn't say a word. for example, "xx, do we have to wear white shoes for class activities?" they wouldn't answer me. whenever i spoke, the dormitory would be silent, and all the conversations stopped. the atmosphere was very cold.sometimes i really doubted whether i had done something bad to make the whole dormitory choose not to talk to me. later, looking back, i basically didn't laugh during that period of time except when i went home.”@seven star yaoguang

"i always thought that it was more common to see such a situation in the girls' dormitory, but the fact is that there are many such problems in the boys' dormitory as well. during the military training at the beginning of the freshman year, i was the temporary person in charge and went with a few other classmates to help the counselor deal with some things, so there was no military training that afternoon. when my roommate came back from the military training, he saw me and sneered, thinking that i had avoided the military training and was very comfortable, but in fact i was really tired that afternoon.i really couldn't understand why this kind of thing isolated me from my roommate whom i had only known for a few days. later i realized that roommates are just roommates, and the possibility of meeting kind and similar people is really small. so the dormitory became my place to rest. when i have time, i would hang out in the library, watch movies, or take a walk with classmates i get along with.”@。

"as a counselor, i want to say that we are also troubled by the dormitory issue. as long as both parties are willing, there is no problem with changing dormitories. what we are afraid of is that we want to change dormitories, but cannot find a suitable one.the counselor was also upset because we didn’t have the right to assign dormitories.. ”@follow your heart

“college life should not be limited by dormitory relationships. when you find like-minded people, work hard together. otherwise, learn to get along with yourself.”@我丧吾

"i don't know if i'm too indifferent or what, but i think sometimes people have too high expectations of their roommates. we just happen to live together, so isn't it normal for our personalities to be incompatible? they're not friends made for each other.if you get along well, play together; if you don’t, go your separate ways. why bother about whether your roommate is a friend or not?can't we live together if we're not friends? i can't do anything about it if the school divides us up! @the moon hasn't rised yet

“1. do not snore or grind teeth at night; 2. do not touch roommates’ things; 3. do not disturb roommates’ rest; 4. take care of your own hygiene; 5. smoking does not affect roommates; 6. do not make loud noises.this can solve 99% of the conflicts in the dormitory, and except for the first one, the others are all about quality. ” @暴龙勇士從无爱💔

"before i went to college, i was worried about living in a dormitory with bad relationships. but it turned out that those worries were just individual cases. most of the classmates were very nice. we went to class and went shopping together most of the time. occasionally, someone would get up early or go to bed late, but they would be very careful not to disturb others. if someone brought food, they would pay for it. if you bought water today, i would buy it tomorrow. there were no conflicts as imagined. we could even change clothes, just like sisters. i cherished such a relationship. moreover, the dormitory relationships of other classmates in the class were also quite harmonious.therefore, if you think more about things from other people's perspective and do a better job, the probability of getting along with others will be greatly reduced. classmates are not your mothers and have no obligation to spoil you. you are all adults, and it will not work if you use the same rules at home. but classmates are peers, have a common language, can understand each other, and learn to be considerate of each other, and you will gain "sisters assigned by the school.".@咩咩

“dear students, it is very important to learn to say "no"!at the beginning of the school year, i thought that since we were all roommates, it was okay for her to help pick up the packages. later, whenever she had a package, she would just let me take it without asking me. ” @tian日月

“my alma mater divided roommates according to region, so people from the northwest and southwest gathered in the dormitory, which was not bad, at least some of them loved noodles.we couldn't understand the call from the fujian students in the southeast dormitory next door.

"i am an old teacher who has worked for 22 years. the personalities of students are indeed more distinct from each generation. the energy spent on coordinating dormitory relationships can be said to be increasing year by year.generally speaking, students in the past were more flexible and tolerant, while students today know how to defend their rights better.times are changing, and it is normal for children to change, whether good or bad. roommates in school are basically randomly assigned. if you meet a roommate who is on the same wavelength, you should be grateful for having one more friend. if you meet a roommate who is not getting along with you, you don’t have to be too negative.it is also a good thing to learn to seek common ground with others while reserving differences by using "insensitivity" in the common life, and to cultivate one's own adaptability in advance for entering the society. after all, we can't always ask others to accommodate us, and starting to change ourselves is the truly effective strategy."@tomorrow

dormitory life is a life experience that almost everyone will have when they go to school. students from different living environments and with different growth experiences are gathered together because of the school's assignment. they need to directly complete the transformation from strangers to roommates who live together day and night. it is inevitable that there are various places that are difficult to adapt to. how to deal with dormitory relationships is not only a test of students' interpersonal skills, but also a test of teachers' and schools' ability to resolve problems.

for students, apart from studying in the classroom, most of the time on campus is spent in the dormitory. dormitory relations also largely determine students' mentality towards school and even directly affect their academic performance, so schools and teachers need to pay more attention to this.

some schools have taken action to this end. many universities have launched a new model of online self-selection of beds, so that choosing dormitories, beds, and roommates is no longer a "blind box" but the right of choice is handed over to students. some schools even collect statistics on work and rest habits, hygiene habits, learning status, personal hobbies, etc., so that new students can choose dormitories and roommates according to their needs, helping students to choose compatible roommates to the greatest extent possible and reduce conflicts in the dormitory.